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“Fine. Give her three chances. If she says no more than three times you don’t want her anyway. You really don’t need to get involved with someone who’s so insecure that they need you to jump off a cliff for them.”
“But what if she would have said yes on fourth call?”
“Then she’ll call you. Haven’t you noticed that when you pursue someone and then you suddenly stop, they miss attention and come after you? Of course, that’s only if they were interested in first place.”
John’s face fell. “That’s never happened to me.”
“Doesn’t surprise me,” I laughed. “You don’t give up until you’ve badgered them to death and by then they can’t stand you. Any attraction that might have existed is long gone.”
John was stunned. It was time to repair damage.
“Look, I’m telling you this to help. Make it a rule to give a girl three chances, then stick to that rule. You’ll save yourself a lot of time and heartache. And for God’s sake, pick them for a better reason than fact that they’re ‘cute’.”
John squared his shoulders. “Right! She gets one more chance. I’m calling her now.”
I groaned as he strode from room.
I doubted that he’d stick to three strikes rule. The movies offer many romantic storylines where couple start off hating each other and then fall madly in love. Many people like John are confused about when no means yes or no means no.
But it’s still safest to take a no at face value. Life’s too short to try second-guessing other people. And it’s much less stressful when people in your life are honest and open and aren’t afraid to tell you that they care. Why settle for anything less?
Marguerite Bonneville is a Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) whose passion is publishing information online. She is a contributing writer at http://www.romantic-gift-ideas-online.com, a resource site dedicated to helping visitors find the perfect romantic gift.