You can decide to feel inferior because you don’t have much money and you don’t drive a nice car. You can believe that this is reason that you don’t have many friends in your life. On other hand, if you are very wealthy you may be suspicious that everyone is after your money and that nobody really likes you as a person.

The point is, you can fixate on just about anything and believe it’s reason you do not have friends and cannot make any.

Here is an easy way to remind yourself of what your good qualities are: write down a list of your good qualities and review it often. Don’t just think in your mind about what your good qualities might be, actually make effort to write list. The act of writing helps to reinforce strength of ideas in your mind. Don’t be embarrassed to give yourself credit for your good points. If you don’t have any idea what your good points might be, you might want to ask some of people you know.

When you compile your list of good qualities, be as generous in your praise as your best friend in whole wide world would be! If you don’t have any best friends yet, imagine in your mind a wise and loving friend who knows you truly and appreciates you. What would that person say are your good points?

Here are some ideas that might be applicable to you. Feel free to adjust this list for yourself and add to it.

My good qualities are:

·I’m kind ·I never gossip ·I go out of my way to help others ·I’m good with numbers ·I have a calm disposition ·I know a lot about sports

You can keep your list with you and read it over every day. Add to it whenever you think of new good qualities you discover in yourself. Be alert for compliments that other people give you. The positive qualities that others see in you can go on your list as well.

When you are out there meeting people, frequently remind yourself of all wonderful qualities you have. It’s only a matter of time before you meet other people who will appreciate them too!

Learn to relax. Instead of berating yourself for some perceived shortcoming, concentrate on good qualities you have to offer. Realize that there is an audience for your particular combination of gifts, and go looking for those people who will appreciate them.

This article is an excerpt from new downloadable book by Royane Real titled “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends, and Keeping Friends” available at http://www.royanereal.com

When you set a goal, and also every time when you write down you goal or speak it to yourself, you are giving instructions to goal seeking part of your brain called reticular activating system. This part of your brain cannot tell difference between 'truth' and 'fiction'. Your mind will help you achieve your goal regardless of time deadlines.

Second, most goals gurus say that you should set goals which, in your own mind, are realistically achievable. The other opinion is that you should set goals which are possible but extremely unlikely. I prefer to set goals which I consider to be realistically achievable. Your mind will only help you if your self image believes that goal is possible. You can read more about this in my article on psycho-cybernetics

You might also find it useful to read my article on setting goals which gives advice on other elements of goal setting.