If I Hurt You, Then I'm Sorry

Written by Skye Thomas


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It didn't take long at all for me to see that this statement works just as well inrepparttar adult world too. Try it at work on a coworker some time and see how well they respond. Try it in your marriage. Try it with your extended family. It works on so many different levels. It can be said in light disagreements or in major all out family wars. It always works. On some level you mean it, except forrepparttar 110743 parts where you don't. Don't get into arguing over exactly what parts ofrepparttar 110744 fight you are sorry for or taking blame for. Agree not to bicker overrepparttar 110745 details ofrepparttar 110746 apology. You can expand it to say, "If during our disagreement, I have said or done anything that has hurt you, I am sorry. That was not my intention. I never wanted to hurt you." You are not lying and you are offering an olive branch. You really did not want to hurtrepparttar 110747 other person. You simply wanted to make your point. This allows you to save face but still beginrepparttar 110748 healing process. Try it sometime.

I don't think it works for really heinous things like rape, murdering someone's loved one, arson, or all out military warfare. It only works for forgivable stuff. If you believe everything and everyone is forgivable, then you can try saying it, but I expect nobody will really buy into it. If Hitler said it torepparttar 110749 Jewish peoples or Charles Manson said it to his victims' families, I doubt seriously that it would have created any real peace. When something truly ugly happens, you do have to flat out admit full guilt and a full real apology is mandatory before real forgiveness and healing can even begin to occur.

This form of apology isn't for that sort of thing. This is meant only forrepparttar 110750 hundreds of petty squabbles that we get drawn into and it's a way to create a general atmosphere of peace and healing. This is forrepparttar 110751 people that you ultimately want to stay close to. This is an apology for those annoying people that you love with all your heart, but don't want to fight with anymore.

Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's Edge

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow's Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. To read more of her articles and to sign up to receive her free weekly newsletter, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net. To download free previews of her books, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.


Mommy..Daddy..Is There A Santa Claus?

Written by Mark Bulleit


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Now, no matter what your religious preference is or if you even believe in Saints, doesn't change that St. Nicholas represents a selfless act of giving. Rather it be material gifts, money where needed orrepparttar often most valuable gift of a little of your time, it's aboutrepparttar 110742 act of helping someone else for no other reason then just because they need it.

As St. Nicholas had figured out as a young man, we truly, as adults, begin to understand Santa Claus when we realize thatrepparttar 110743 best gift of all is not onrepparttar 110744 receiving end, but beingrepparttar 110745 one giving. And being rich doesn't always mean having a lot of money. Often, especially these days, takingrepparttar 110746 time to spend with someone, inviting them over for dinner or even putting food on their table, can make allrepparttar 110747 difference.

But how do we explain this to a child? Well, we do it in stages. They first have to learn how much receiving a gift meant to them to understand how much it means to others. And Santa Claus, well he is a perception of a truly magical holiday spirit presented to them in a way with which they can associate at this point in their lives.

So, how do we, as parents, answer this question in a way our young children will understand? You, as a parent, should decide when it's time to come clean. You can meter this by deciding when you feel they will understand that Santa Claus really does exist in all of us and he often means something different to each person they'll meet. A child grasping this is a big step towards learning whatrepparttar 110748 holidays are truly all about.

Mark Bulleit is the developer/co-founder of the popular GreetingsFromSanta.com offering personal letters from Santa. Light up your child's face like never before this season. Happy holidays from http://www.GreetingsFromSanta.com.


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