Probably 90% of time, our negative expectations are proved unfounded, and this one of rushes we get from action, along with knowledge that your goal is undoubtedly closer to happening because you *have* acted.

You also get a sense of control, and ability to choose direction of your life.

Finally we arrive at ‘I did’ stage.

At this point, we have maybe achieved our goal, or taken steps towards it, and we can begin to unleash this system on other goals in our life.

Maybe it didn’t work out, in which case I pull out one of my favourite quotes:

“You’re not a failure if you try and don’t make it, you’re a success because you tried”.

In either case you can feel proud of yourself, because you are truly harnessing power which lies within yourself, and believe me, you will feel happier and less stressed.

We use this 4 step strategy all time, every day. Putting out rubbish for garbage collector for example. I should put rubbish out because it’s bin day. I must put it out, or it won’t get collected. I will put it out, because I don’t want it hanging around for another week. I did put it out, and job is done.

Our own goals in life, whatever they may be, simply need a conscious effort to apply same 4 steps!

Let’s take for example difference between being single and being in a relationship…

I’ve experienced both, I’m currently single.

When you are single, it’s very easy to long for all good bits of a relationship, passion, warmth, sharing.

Before you get too jealous though, don’t forget expenses, rows, fighting over remote and bedcover, etc.

Also, don’t forget wonderful freedom and opportunities that exist for single person, which people in relationships can only dream of! And, of course, that’s exactly what they will do, because they’re looking at *your* grass!

So, c’mon, don’t worry too much about what other people have, concentrate on what you have, concentrate on your own efforts, your own goals, your own abundance.

If you do this, when your neighbour wants you to admire his astro-turf, you nod politely, and smile to yourself, safe in knowledge that grass is actually greener on *your* side!