INTERVIEW DOS AND DON’TS

Written by Keith Emerson


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Here are some suggestions for questions you should be asking: What arerepparttar company’s plans forrepparttar 101516 future? Be sure not to ask anything that is readily available inrepparttar 101517 company literature, but take this opportunity to find out more about your potential employer duringrepparttar 101518 interview. This indicates that you are interested inrepparttar 101519 long term, versus merely planning to userepparttar 101520 position as a stepping stone to your next job. Why did this position become available? It is perfectly acceptable to inquire as to whether this is a newly created position or if someone held it previously and left. Doesrepparttar 101521 company invest inrepparttar 101522 career development of its employees by offering leadership, educational or coaching programs? It is wise to avoid a barrage of questions regarding benefits packages, salary and vacation inrepparttar 101523 initial interview. However, many organizations strive to create an atmosphere of success and look torepparttar 101524 future by preparing their key talent with opportunities for advancement and may be happy to discuss them with you. What isrepparttar 101525 company looking for inrepparttar 101526 right employee for this position? Ask aboutrepparttar 101527 short- and long- term goals hoped for in fulfilling this job and leverage your past experience and accomplishments to show that you would be a good fit. Be honest, knowledgeable and direct. The best way to make a lasting and favorable impression is to show that you would be an asset torepparttar 101528 company by making a great first impression. While interviewing can be unsettling for evenrepparttar 101529 most qualified candidates, you will be far less nervous if you know that you are going in as prepared as you can be.

Keith Emerson is the senior vice president and general manager of leading career services company Lee Hecht Harrison's Boston and Burlington, Massachusetts and Manchester, New Hampshire offices. Lee Hecht Harrison is the leading global career services company specializing in providing leadership consulting and career management services. I


The Metrosexual Man vs. The Cowboy- What Do Women Want?

Written by Toni Coleman, LCSW


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Women ask questions such as:

* who asks who out * who calls who * who pays * who makes decisions about where to go, etc. * What arerepparttar expectations atrepparttar 101515 end ofrepparttar 101516 date * how soon should we become intimate

Women comment on:

* his lack of initiative in calling or asking her out * his expectation that they will go dutch * how he never offers to pick her up * his overall lack of assertiveness * his saying he will call, but not following through * his too polished style which lacks a certain spark of masculinity * his taking longer to get ready than she does * his crudeness or over aggressive style * his expectation that they will have sex

Men ask questions such as:

* what do women want * why should a guy have to ask a girl out * why shouldrepparttar 101517 guy always pay * why do women say they want sensitivity, etc., but see guys like that as wimps * why do women give out such mixed signals in general * why do women seem to reject nice guys and go for jerks * why can't a woman berepparttar 101518 aggressor

Men comment on:

* women acting spoiled * women wanting their independence, etc. but not wanting equal responsibility and weight * women expecting a lot from men, but offering little in return * women not knowing what they want * women playing games * women's attraction to "bad boys"

Both women and men verbalize that they are ok withrepparttar 101519 current roles that have evolved for them in our society, yet I hear both talk wistfully about how it was in previous generations. Back then; everyone KNEW what was expected from him or her. Life was predictable. Dating was much simpler and "safer". Men were men and women were raised to be wives and homemakers. We have gained something and we have lost something. One thing for sure, we can never have it both ways.

What'srepparttar 101520 answer? It is never simple. However, it does involve better communication in general between men and women. Singles need to clarify for themselves (first), what kind of partner they seek and what their expectations from a relationship really are. Once a person is clear about what they must have and what they can't live with, they need to go out and HONESTLY seek that. Knowing what you want is good. If you turn off someone by your frankness, he/she was notrepparttar 101521 someone for you.

So, begin with a self-assessment. Then go out and pursue interests and environments, which maximize your chances of meeting compatible singles. And remember, there is no perfect person. He may be overly fussy with his hair, take longer inrepparttar 101522 bathroom than most women, be less ambitious in his work life than you are and put your cooking to shame. However, if he's sensitive to YOUR needs, easy to talk to and fun to be with, great with kids and very supportive of your goals, he may berepparttar 101523 guy of your dreams.



Toni Coleman is a and relationship coach in McLean, Virginia. She works with singles who want to create lasting, healthy relationships. Toni has over 20 years of post-masters experience in relationship counseling and coaching with singles and couples. She has also written numerous email classes for singles on all aspects of meeting, dating and relating. She is the author of the email newsletter, The Art of Intimacy, which goes out to thousands of subscribers monthly.




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