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Where is it to be found? Where it always resides - inside each of us. Right now, we need some extra awareness of its existence and a reminder that we carry seeds of peace always and ever with us. This is a time of greater need for meditation in whatever form appeals, more communing with nature, more time spent with loved ones as we are daily reminded of fragility of life, more reflection upon things that really matter in end.
In practical terms, we can ward off stress overload by effective time management, keeping things in perspective, not giving in to negative thinkiing and fear, moderating our schedules and living habits, staying in touch with joy.
A very under-rated emotion. Itís not deep and intense like anger or jealousy and it sounds a bit fluffy like delight or curiosity. Yet, for me, joy is centre of existence because it is essence of our life-force and offers such gifts as creativity, sexuality and spirituality. All best things come from joy. So, if youíre in touch with your own wellspring of joy, how can you fail to also have wellbeing?
Joy is present in midst of tragedy, death, sorrow, disappointment, conflict, anger, violence. It is an integral part of human condition so it can never be absent from our endeavours, our daily lives and even our pain. We are after all, creatures of contradiction, of polarity, are we not? Our lives are always walked on tightrope of contrasting desires and energies; hence desire for addiction, excesses, oblivion. Itís a constant balancing act and some people falter more readily and reach out for negative remedies that poison rather than cure.
Psychological health is walking fine line between darkness and light, between our shining selves and our negative egos. Itís there between contrasts that we find true wellness. It is a place of healing and serenity, not of struggle and exertion. In a nutshell, we all basically try too hard at life - too hard to be happy, to be successful, to be beautiful, to be loved, to be secure, to be safe - all myths. But joy is not. It is our constant gift in an ever-changing world, totally effortless and free. When we cannot feel joy, we are separated from best part of ourselves.
We are never without love whether we have family and friends, whether weíre in a relationship or whether weíre considered lovable or not. Like joy, love is a birthright and therefore, resides deep within us at all times. All you have to do is access it and you need never again feel alone or lonely, isolated or rejected
Once you feel that love within yourself, youíll easily love others, attract love to yourself from outside and find more things around you to love. The world will look like amazing place it is despite horrors of war, poverty, crime, violence and natural disasters. You will indeed see through rose-coloured glasses but not ones by which you disguise ugliness; rather that love you feel will shine out for others to see and in turn, your own vision will be brighter. Life takes on a different glow and bridge between you and rest of world will seem less large. If youíve never experienced this, I urge you to try working from inside out and start sensing peace and harmony you have at your disposal every day of your life. Love is ultimate high!
Overall wellness is not just possible, it is readily attainable if we just let it be, if we own our joy and love ourselves enough to let life be easy.
Some readers may be struggling with disability, disease, loss, financial hardship and so on. Where is wellness in these conditions, you might ask. Well, no-one owns territory of your mind except you. Even in darkest prison, you always have illumination of your inner beauty. Be there and you will feel your own presence, your inner comfort and that, is meaning of true wellbeing.
Dr Charmaine Saunders is a therapist, columnist, magazine and online contributor, lecturer and author of 6 self-help books. Her web site is at www.charmainesaunders.com