I'm always busy, but nothing much gets done!

Written by Charlie Badenhop


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At this point in time I realize that I need to establish my priorities and stick to them, orrepparttar day is really going to spin out of control.

I sit down to sort myself out, and after a bit of time spent thinking, my wife comes back home and cheerfully asks me what I have accomplished so far today.

Upon hearing her question I suddenly feelrepparttar 129713 beginning of a panic attack coming on. I missed gettingrepparttar 129714 garbage out in time, I still haven't writtenrepparttar 129715 check forrepparttar 129716 overdue bill, I haven't yet addressedrepparttar 129717 envelope withrepparttar 129718 pictures for my uncle, and of course I have yet to begin cleaningrepparttar 129719 shed.

Soonrepparttar 129720 day will be half over, and not only am I not making headway, but I am losing ground!

Recognizingrepparttar 129721 emotional pain, I am in my daughter pulls me over to sit onrepparttar 129722 couch and climbs up on my lap. "Daddy," she says, "Why don't you do what you told me to dorepparttar 129723 other day when I was upset? " "Take three deep breaths..." "Look around you and notice that indeedrepparttar 129724 world is NOT falling apart..." "And give thanks for all that you have, and all ofrepparttar 129725 people who love you!"

Better advice has never been given.

When you find your life spinning out of control, takerepparttar 129726 time to breathe and feel intorepparttar 129727 emotional experience you are creating. Regardless ofrepparttar 129728 task at hand, if you maintain a clear concept of who you are and what you are wanting to accomplish, you can stay on track and feel OK with all that transpires.

Charlie Badenhop is the originator of Seishindo, an Aikido instructor, NLP trainer, and Ericksonian Hypnotherapist. Benefit from his thought-provoking ideas and a new self-help Practice every two weeks, by subscribing to his complimentary newsletter "Pure Heart, Simple Mind" at http://www.seishindo.org/anger/index.html .


Biting the hand that feeds you

Written by Charlie Badenhop


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3. Rewardrepparttar negative behavior and thus reframerepparttar 129710 meaning ofrepparttar 129711 behavior. When you rewardrepparttar 129712 "bad" behavior,repparttar 129713 behavior is no longer bad. The parrot bites your right hand and you reward him by giving a snack with your left hand. The relationship is circular in nature. It doesn't take long beforerepparttar 129714 parrot loses his enthusiasm for biting you. He still very much wantsrepparttar 129715 snacks you feed him after each attack, but he would rather not have to do all ofrepparttar 129716 biting to getrepparttar 129717 goodies.

4. Blurrepparttar 129718 starting and stopping points, blurrepparttar 129719 difference between good and bad. The parrot has been biting one hand and you have been nuzzlingrepparttar 129720 parrot and feeding him with your other hand. Now takerepparttar 129721 hand that has been doingrepparttar 129722 nuzzling and feeding and present it torepparttar 129723 parrot for biting. Whenrepparttar 129724 parrot takes a playful nip, you nuzzle him withrepparttar 129725 hand he was previously gnawing on.

When you encouragerepparttar 129726 parrot to biterepparttar 129727 hand that feeds him! His confusion will be obvious.

5. Changerepparttar 129728 reason forrepparttar 129729 reward. Afterrepparttar 129730 "break in" period you only give a snack whenrepparttar 129731 parrot is gentle and playful. Little by little you thus changerepparttar 129732 reference behavior for gettingrepparttar 129733 snack. Usually at this stage, anyone that moves slowly can play withrepparttar 129734 parrot with little concern about getting bitten.

I have foundrepparttar 129735 above method, to be by farrepparttar 129736 fastest, easiest, and most humane way to tame a parrot, and calm down children that appear to have a violent streak.

Charlie Badenhop is the originator of Seishindo, an Aikido instructor, NLP trainer, and Ericksonian Hypnotherapist. Benefit from his thought-provoking ideas and a new self-help Practice every two weeks, by subscribing to his complimentary newsletter "Pure Heart, Simple Mind" at http://www.seishindo.org/anger/index.html .


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