I'm Sorry But.........

Written by graham and julie


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When you lack confidence allrepparttar world seems to be against you and you seem to get caught in a downward spiral. Just look at sportspeople when their confidence is low they stop winning, they stop being able to do what was second nature to them before. Frustration takes over and when frustration isrepparttar 123134 master thenrepparttar 123135 world goes pear shaped. It becomes everybody else’s fault. It’srepparttar 123136 same with you. Confidence isrepparttar 123137 key.

But how do you get your confidence back? Usually either with someone believing in you and reminding you of your talents or by taking a good look at yourself and remembering what you are good at. Your strengths if you like.

Then practice. Going back torepparttar 123138 training field and re-practicing all you strengths until they become second nature again. Do what Jane did. Put yourself in a position where you have to practice day in day out and gradually you will regain confidence in your strengths. It is strange but sportspeople accept thatrepparttar 123139 way to develop and grow is through practice but in everyday life we think that we can just get on with it. Let me give you an example.

A few years ago Julie and I used to teach a meditation course. Atrepparttar 123140 beginning ofrepparttar 123141 course we would explainrepparttar 123142 benefits of meditation and suggest that each person starts with five minutes inrepparttar 123143 morning and if possible five minutes inrepparttar 123144 evening. Within a week or two students would be ’phoning us to tell us that were no longer attendingrepparttar 123145 course because they found that they could not meditate. They had sat down but found it impossible to concentrate and decided that it was not for them. You see, they were unwilling to practice. We don’t know anyone who is able to sit down and meditate immediately. It takes time and practice like everything else in life.

Often to regain your confidence you have to change your attitude. We have learned that there is no such thing as I can’t……. there is only I couldn’t be bothered or I am unwilling to putrepparttar 123146 time in atrepparttar 123147 moment or I won’t because…….I don’t have time……..I couldn’t possibly………..It’s no use ……I’ve tried but…….To get your confidence back you have to put in effort on yourself. You have to identify your strengths and keep practicing. You have to desire a different life. A different way of living.

Use: of course when…. instead of I’m sorry but …..

Graham and Julie www.desktop-mediation.com



Graham and Julie live in the Canary Islands where they pursue their love for writing, photography and spirituality. To see more if their work please go to: www.desktop-meditation.com




Doing Favors versus Being Of Service

Written by Paula Langguth Ryan


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You could seerepparttar courage becoming more and more expressive on Eddie’s face, as he felt and received that acceptance. When he realized everyone was eager for him to be of service, he gave it his all. I was especially touched by something Eddie said, which I can only paraphrase. He stood up, one ofrepparttar 123133 few black people inrepparttar 123134 room, and said “the reason God made us look different is so we would be able to practice remembering we are all one.”

This is what being of service does, too. Think about it. When you do a favor for someone you automatically set yourself apart, and often above,repparttar 123135 other person. When you are being of service, however, you are recognizing that you are connected, that we are all one.

Later that same Sunday, I conducted a workshop. A gentleman we later dubbed “Bike Messenger Bob” sawrepparttar 123136 sign forrepparttar 123137 workshop and pedaled in to join us. Bike Messenger Bob was an enthusiastic bundle of light and joy who demonstrated being of service. When I asked for water, he jumped up, got me a glass of water. He got me a bigger glass so I wouldn’t get thirsty later, brought me a brownie, went out torepparttar 123138 hallway and brought in a copy of my book to show to people, gave people encouragement, and atrepparttar 123139 end ofrepparttar 123140 workshop he disappeared without a trace. He came solely to be of service. He didn’t do it for any acknowledgement, any reward, for anything in return.

Take some time this month to make a list of everyone you’ve done a favor for inrepparttar 123141 past few months. Write down whatrepparttar 123142 favor was that you did. Then cross outrepparttar 123143 words “did a favor” and replace them with “was of service”. Noticerepparttar 123144 changes you feel aboutrepparttar 123145 situation and your expectations of being owed anything, or of being somehow apart from, or more than, this person.



Paula Langguth Ryan is the author of “Bounce Back From Bankruptcy” and “Giving Thanks: The Art of Tithing.” Ryan shows people how to dissolve fear and create what they truly desire in their lives, Ryan’s clients include Olympic athletes, nationally- renowned authors and top-notch salespeople. Visit her site at http://www.artofabundance.com for a free monthly Art of Abundance e-zine or email paularyan-70559@autocontactor.com for a free e-book of Giving Thanks.


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