Car accidents

Stopping in traffic for no apparent reason.

Getting confused between brake and gas pedals

Getting a ticket for moving violations

Getting lost when places are familiar

Getting agitated or irritated when they are driving

Not anticipating dangerous situations

Delayed responses to unexpected situations

Driving at inappropriate speeds

Incorrect signaling

Getting confused at exists

Switching into a wrong lane

If some of warning signs above are present, then it's time for family members to gather and discuss problem. Sometimes it is easier to be together to face a difficult decision and intervene at an early stage when signs of impairment are not yet critical.

The accident rate for drivers 85 years old and over is nine times higher than drivers between ages 25 and 69. The primary care giver may perform routine exams to assess ability and skills of patient and conform to state and local restrictions and laws. If you are concerned about your loved one's driving, take measures to keep him and others safe on road.

You may find some additional information by finding a specialist in your area and you can contact Association for Driver Rehabilitation Specialists (1-800-290-2344), ADRS Your local Department of Motor Vehicles may also be able to help you on this subject.

Do we as caregivers think we must punish ourselves by living under shadow of guilt and misery? Do we feel our loved one is suffering so we must also? I hope not. The best thing we can do for our loved one's and ourselves is to recognize that feelings of guilt are irrational. We must take care of ourselves by dismissing those feelings. Feelings of guilt lead to depression. Depression can lead to ill health and despair. If you as caregiver becomes "down" than who will care for your loved one?

Caring for yourself requires taking breaks whenever they present themselves. Never turn down an offer for help. Try to exercise, even if it means taking a walk around block. Journal your feelings. Laugh with someone, even if it's yourself or one you're caring for. Talk with friends, family, clergy or join a support group. Drink a coke. Watch your favorite movie. Dance. Please, take care of yourself. The person you are caring for needs you. They continue to love you, even if they can't express it. Love goes beyond any disease, ailment or life's disappointments.

So, I ask question again, why do we feel guilt? Because, it's a bad habit we must "kick." "Let go" of those guilt feelings and start living. When feelings of guilt start creeping up on you again (and believe me, they will), tell yourself "I'm doing best I can and my best is enough." "My verdict is; not guilty, I have nothing to feel guilty for."

Say: Good-bye to GUILT (Give Undeserved Illusions Little Thought) Hello to Life.