The speediest and most natural way to do this is to do and engage in things that you love to do and/or really enjoy doing. These things help to balance you.

When you do what you love, enjoying your life and then letting go of all other stuff, you get to spend more and more time experiencing a sense of joy, fulfillment and happiness. As well as being great fun, this is also highly attractive – people really like to be around someone who is doing what they love! That includes you being around yourself. You will love yourself a lot more when you are enjoying what you are doing when looking to achieve your goals for personal development.

One of things I love doing is running various training courses that I do run regularly. Things like my self-hypnosis courses for example are one of most powerful approaches that I have encountered for helping people to live congruently, with balance and creating lives that bring them joy and happiness. When I’m running training courses or seminars; to experience other people making powerfully progressive changes to heighten their own experience of themselves for themselves, ensures that I experience that sense of deep congruence and balance that comes from being fully myself. This sense of being truly yourself is most powerful ‘life-compass’ there is in my opinion.

The ‘attractive’ power of congruence and balance works just as well for your own goals. We can all think of examples of goals that we want to achieve where ‘The Values’ may include words like ‘people’, ‘integrity’ 'Health' 'Happiness', but where actions and behaviours we are taking don’t support those values of goals. On other hand, you may have encountered people that their behaviours match their values. This person is congruent, (and has balance) and that congruence (and balance) sends an unconscious message to people and to yourself, your own mind, that says “You can trust this person to do what they say they will”. So continue to check with yourself;

- Are your own personal values clear to you?

- Do my actions and attitudes fit with these values?

Have a think about creating some congruence and balance in your life.

The benefits of diving are that anyone can do it, and you don’t have to have any license to make a trial dive. Unlike for example sky diving, scuba diving doesn’t trigger as much fear and most people would be thrilled at opportunity to see world under surface. It is an adventure that you make together. Something that makes things even better is that many dive boats serve food so you can enjoy a good meal (yes, food is often good) after your dive and enjoy ocean on your way back. I guarantee that it is an experience that few women have ever had on a date before, and an experience she will carry with her for many years to come. Who know you just might be living and diving together for many years to come. And even if you don’t have such luck you would definitely not seem to be just anther guy, but rather a guy a girl might want to recommend to her girlfriends even if she doesn’t hock u with you.

A diving trip doesn’t have to take more time then any regular date. A few hours is enough and it doesn’t have to cost more then a nice dinner. You can find places to that offers diving almost regardless of where you live in world and you can most likely find a lake that offers great diving even if you live in middle of country.

Of course diving is only one way to make an unusually, memorable date, and I am sure you can find many more ways. But regardless of what you choose to do, I guarantee that an unusually memorable date is always worth time and preparations they require to plan.

And if you want to be even more special than all of us making things like taking our dates diving, take your girl night diving, that way your date includes both a new dark and mystical world to explore and a moonlight boat ride. A moonlight boat ride when you can talk about what you experienced in that mystical exotic new world you just shared.

Remember don’t be just another guy.