The next time you want to motivate yourself to do something talk to yourself same way you would if someone was standing before you waiting to be inspired.

Speak loudly with passion and excitement either aloud or to yourself inside your head. The more energy you put into it easier it will be to light fire inside you that sparks you into action.

3 Know how to feel good when you are having a tough day

No matter how focused, positive and hard working you are there will still be days when nothing seems to go your way. It is on days like this that you must take charge of your brain and take control of your self talk.

You need a back catalogue of memories you can replay to make yourself feel good. Music does it for me. I have so many songs I love to hear that I just pick one out and listen to it in my mind.

In a moment I can listen to sounds that make me feel fantastic simply by choosing to. For best results imagine you have a volume control with bass and treble. Make music sound rich, loud and resonant.

A friend of mine has such a great memory that he will listen to an entire CD in his mind. How about that for a quick and easy way to feel good whenever you are having a tough day?

One final way to use this tip. Replay happy memories of people telling you how much they value and appreciate you. Hear them saying what a difference you are making and soak up those wonderful feelings of appreciation.

It really is your choice as to how you run your brain. Choose to feel great and your communication with yourself and outside world will become remarkable. Your motivation will soar and getting more done each day will just get easier and easier with eager people lining up to help you.

In either of these cases it is best to slowly lead person back to a polite discussion. You can do this by asking highly specific questions that force person to slow down and think before replying.

If you honestly did not do anything to encourage rudeness you are clearly dealing with someone who habitually talks in this way.

Unless you can change person you just have to accept him as he is.

3 What can you do?

Ultimately you have a choice - avoid dealing with vulgar people where possible or join them! Only joking!

Seriously though if you cannot avoid them you need to remember how to take charge of conversations. Plus you need to ensure you remain strong and unaffected by their manner.

In meantime you can achieve quite a lot by distinguishing between person and way they deliver their message to you.

Look beyond their words to real message they are trying to convey.

We all have a bad day now and again maybe you just bumped into them while they were stuck at a low point.