How to Stay Balanced During Stressful Situations

Written by Debra Cohen

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3) Identify and write downrepparttar mental tape loops that you finding yourself repeating. By knowing what these are you can watch it instead of take it as your own identity. The more you "see"repparttar 101848 dramasrepparttar 101849 less you react from within them. We all fall into our own melodramas and soap operas and taking a bird's eye view can give us another perspective. It helps us to not "buy into" our own story. Our inner story is something we repeat to ourselves and others and gives us our identity. It's good to step back and see which parts of it are beneficial and which are messages fromrepparttar 101850 past, other people or our old identities. Just as a computer needs to have files deleted in order to operate more efficiently, so our minds need to haverepparttar 101851 extra "files" emptied out so we have room for new stories, dreams and aspirations.

4) Keep a notebook of inspiring anectdotes, quotes and tips. This helps to boost one's spirit and also to feel connected with others that have dealt with similar feelings. Put some reminders on your refrigerator, desk at work, car dash board and other places so you can catch you mind and re-direct it in a positive direction.

Inspirational Samples

If you are distressed by anything external,repparttar 101852 pain is not due torepparttar 101853 thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and this you haverepparttar 101854 power to revoke at any moment.

~ Marcus Aurelius ~

A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver five minutes longer.

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~

Debra Cohen, LCSW is a Licensed Social Worker in Florida. These tips are taken from her booklet "How to Stay Balanced During Stressful Situations" which sells for $4.95. Please send an e-mail for purchasing information to:

Communication Expert reveals 5 keys to self expression without limits

Written by Peter Murphy

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4 Inrepparttar mad rush to get ahead very oftenrepparttar 101847 most important people in our lives donīt always get our full attention. How can we make sure we really listen and valuerepparttar 101848 little time we do have with family and friends?


This is a real key question for many of us. I think many of us focus on allowing new things into our life; more money, more romance, more fun, more friends. But I think it's equally important for us to recognize what we allow into our life that prevents us from havingrepparttar 101849 time we desire forrepparttar 101850 people we value most.

Ultimately, each of us must look at our motivations for engaging inrepparttar 101851 "mad rush to get ahead". We each learn models of being in order to create results and we conform to them out of our desire for approval. But, I think we all know people who work hard and never get ahead. So is working hardrepparttar 101852 answer?

Having anything you desire truly is effortless, when you release it. For me, releasing creates so many opportunities and alternatives. When I let go, I let go of lack and limitation. In its place abundance appears.

My favorite quote from Lester Levenson is "Any complexity in life isrepparttar 101853 ego trying to undorepparttar 101854 simplicity of reality." Lack is a creation, a mental concept. Whether that lack be time, money, love, or whatever. Lack is a problem we have created, like all problems.


5 Inrepparttar 101855 workplace how we express ourselves has a major impact on how we are perceived by our peers. How can we communicate in a way that creates a favorable impression that reflects our contribution torepparttar 101856 business?


If our ultimate goal is "Happiness without sorrow", then I think we first need to release on our desire for creating that "favorable impression". At best, that is only a guess regarding whatrepparttar 101857 other person might want. And, it creates a limitation for us that restricts our energy, our best ideas, andrepparttar 101858 real contribution we can be torepparttar 101859 business.

Early in my career, seeking to be a "people pleaser" was one of my biggest blocks. Learning to let go of wanting my peer's approval has freed me to put forth my ideas - both "good" and "bad". And, sometimes those "bad" ideas serve to ignite great ones. It also lead me out of situations and work that were not necessarilyrepparttar 101860 best match for who I am.

Second, releasing on our desire for control and security allows us to stay open torepparttar 101861 ideas and input of others. When we do this, we expand our consciousness to include not just our own thoughts, but we also gain incredible leverage fromrepparttar 101862 ideas of others. Even people who challenge us can become allies, especially when we recognize why they challenge us. These challenges are a real asset when we recognize they are highlighting our blocks to real growth.

On this note, sometimes our greatest contribution to a business can be our ability to make others feel comfortable by creating an environment they can thrive in. Some people might call a person able to do this a leader. So often,repparttar 101863 workplace is a breeding ground for fear, competition and insecurities. If this ever brings outrepparttar 101864 best in people, it is short-term. Sooner or later, people burn out in these conditions. Releasing these limiting feelings increases productivity and positive results throughout a business in countless ways.


Thank you very much John for takingrepparttar 101865 time to answer my questions today. You offered some great insights and novel ways of dealing with challenging people situations.


You are very welcome Peter. I hoperepparttar 101866 readers find what I had to say of interest.

Peter Murphy has prepared another article for you all about releasing. Send a to receive it by email along with details of a free tape and report. Do it now because this is a limited offer.

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