3 Ask yourself:

-- how could you have handled situation better? -- what could you have done differently? -- what is solution to problem?

Your goal is to be emotionally detached yet concerned with finding best solution in same way you help a friend with a problem.

4 Imagine a trusted friend is in helicopter observing:

-- what advice would your friend give you? -- what does your friend notice that you missed?

Your own private helicopter can be used to identify patterns of communication you have that land you in hot water as well as new ways of dealing with problems.

Have fun in sky!

3. Invest In Your Future

I have always been fascinated at how quickly my life can change once I learn and use new distinctions. Think about it. The only thing stopping you from succeeding in any area of life is a lack of knowledge. And if you commit to learning you can bridge that gap.

Let us say your goal is to be CEO of largest company in your town or city.

What is stopping you?

Knowledge and skills. And these can be learned. You can acquire knowledge and mental skills, people skills and ability to handle pressure.

Obviously you will choose a goal that will make you happy and avoid occupations that you are not suited to. You will naturally favor goals that build on your interests and aptitudes.

How are you going to quickly acquire skills you need to move ahead in your life? The fastest way is to invest money in courses and books that reveal strategies you need.

Consider how much money you spend each year to service your car. The cost of oil changes, new tires and other repairs. Not to mention insurance.

Do you spend this much on servicing and upgrading your skills? And No this is not responsibility of your employer. Your company only spends on you to achieve corporate goals not your goals.

The first time I attended a huge three day personal development seminar it was with several thousand people. And I learned a lot in car park! I noticed at 3 A.M. when first day ended that car park was full of very expensive luxury cars. Porsche, Rolls Royce, Jaguar, Bentley and Ferrari.

It was then that I understood what separates most successful people from everyone else. A lifetime commitment to learning and a willingness to invest in their own development.

Do you want to step up and join those at top of your field? It is easier than you think because most people prefer to do nothing and hope that things will somehow get better.

Take action and invest today in a bright new future.