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PREPERATION MUST PRECEED OPPORTUNITY Consider how many great opportunities are lost by what I call "semantic sabotage". If you've ever found yourself stumbling over your words, or simply not knowing what to say next you've experienced "the dialog dilemma." Also if you've uttered a statement, then realized that it wasn't exactly what you meant to say. These are all curable maladies.
I 'LL BET YOUR'VE NEVER HAD THIS EXPERIENCE... Someone introduces themselves to you. Then you tell them your name. Suddenly you realize you can not recall their name. Why does this happen so often? Simple, you didn't forget their name - you never really heard it in first place! You still had yourself in middle of picture.
Most people do not listen with intent to understand - they listen with intent to reply or impress. This is never successful because mind does not have simultaneous capability. Therefore, if you are contemplating your next statement, you are not focusing on his words, tones and actions.
In order to read a person like a book, you must get them to open up, get them talking. Getting people to open up is a skill that you can learn.
A skilled conversationalist uses specific question in three different categories. (1) Conversation starters. (2) Personal questions. (3) Philosophical questions. Once you've mastered a small inventory of optional questions you can switch categories to control outcome.
QUESTIONS ARE THE KEY TO KNOWLEDGE and source of power. He who does not ask right questions always hears wrong answers. An unclear question has an infinite number of answers.
Many say that information is path to power. The wealthiest people will tell you that it's their ability to make wise choices in dealing with people is their greatest asset. And that when they did make mistakes, it was often disastrous for them socially and financially.
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Oscar Bruce is considered the ultimate personal communications guru. His dynamic books are field manuals for mastering conversation and confrontations. His website offers several verbal strategies that can add power to your conversations at no cost. HIS FREE NEWSLETTER, "Talk Tips" is available at http://www.oscarbruce.com