The solution? Try inviting a friend over to help you. (This friend must have your best interest in mind). They won’t write your paper for you, but you can bounce ideas off of them. This solution would make writing a paper much more appealing to you when you know you won’t have to “go it alone.” You can do this with any task you need to get done, but have put off in past because it was not in line with one of your strengths.

Step 3: How fear of failure can be cause of procrastination

One big reason that many people struggle with procrastination is because they’re afraid that they might fail. But what is REALLY driving this fear of failure? In most cases, it’s because of that little voice inside your head that tells you you’re just not good enough.

The voice goes like this: I know I need to look for a new job, but I’m so afraid of interviews. What if I say something stupid? I’ll just wait til next week when there are more jobs in paper and I can get someone to write a better resume.

Do you see how that little voice is creating thoughts that cause procrastination? You start with good intentions, but they quickly get shot down by that little voice inside your head. So how can you stop this from happening?

Step 4: How to stop making excuses and start getting things done!

The next step is overcoming that “little voice” and getting rid of it moment it begins to invent excuses that cause you to procrastinate. Keep reading to find out about a FREE 7-day email course that shows you exactly how to do this.

Be sure to take notes on these 4 simple steps and practice them so you can put those unproductive days behind you. Since you now know real cause of procrastination, you can go right to source and eliminate that little voice inside your head.

You’re going out to add something to your life – a partner. Think of it in terms of choosing a pet. You can head out to buy a Chocolate Lab, or you can head out to buy a female Chocolate lab with a gentle disposition who’s good with kids, or you can head out to by any dog with a gentle disposition who’s good with kids, or a dog under 50 lbs. with a gentle disposition who’s good with kids, or a dog that’s got a gentle disposition, weighs less than 50 lbs., is good with kids and is anything except a cocker spaniel. On other hand, you could go to pet store and look for a dog that appeals to you!

What’s best way to proceed? I think it depends upon your experience and EQ, and if you’re rather new in either area, I’d suggest some coaching. There’s a lot fo learn, and more you learn, more you can make wise choices. In just about anything in life, first you have to learn rules. Then you learn how to break them.

Back to dog analogy. After owning dogs for more years than some of my readers have been alive, I’d go somewhere with likely candidates and then choose a dog that appeals to me. That’s because I’ve had a lot of experience with dogs, and I have good intuition, an EQ competency.

Intuition is leading from heart and suspending intellect. Of course I would set forth with certain intellectual parameters in mind. I don’t want a dog that’s known to bite any more than I’d want a date who’s known to bite!

Good intuition allows you to suspend intellect, which is important in matters of heart. For instance, I know now that an English Spring Spaniel can make a wonderful animal companion, and so can a Basset, a Heinz 57 and a Siberian Husky. By same token, I know I can enjoy a male companion with a Ph.D., an M.A., no college but lots of smarts, or an M.D. In other words, I don’t “rule out” on education (or breed).

However, I also know that a dog that can’t be house-broken, or one that bites, or one that’s too abused to be able to enjoy people isn’t a good choice, any more than a man with too much emotional baggage, or a set of bad habits such as addiction, is also not a good choice. I will “rule out” on those parameters.

There’s a kind of list that works, and a kind that doesn’t. If you spend some time doing your homework, you’ll have better luck. Learn how to make a list that works, and develop your intuition. Then you can date in an emotionally intelligent way.

Why be tree that bends so it doesn’t break? Because you might meet someone who would be an outstanding life partner for you who doesn’t happen to have something that’s on your list. In other words, be flexible about your list.

Generally speaking, you can bend on almost anything except a character or personality trait, and you can even bend on a personality trait if there’s enough good in relationship. For instance, more than one client I’ve worked with has found out that “boring” man they were considering turned out to have sort of stable, consistent personality traits that made for a good life partner, and that a pretty face is just another pretty face.

Look beneath surface and have a list that allows for what really counts.

Good luck!