How to Optimize the Awesome Power of Thoughts and Imagination

Written by Michael Lee

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Imaginerepparttar juiciest whole piece of fried chicken right in front of you. You can smell its tempting aroma. You sliced it into pieces and heardrepparttar 126121 crispy crunching sound. Picture yourself taking a large bite and enjoyingrepparttar 126122 gastronomic experience. Did that made your mouth water? Did that made you hungry? Images are very powerful and can be used to improve your health, attain your goals, and achieve anything that you put your mind into.

For instance, you're a burn victim. You have a wound that is quite agonizing. Don't just say, "Hey, burn wound. Get out of my skin." Picture it in your mind getting smaller and smaller. Visualize it melting and vanishing into thin air.

You may imaginerepparttar 126123 wound itself healing miraculously, or you may designate any object of your choice to represent that wound. For example, you visualize a black stone as a symbol of your illness. Imagine that object shrinking and disintegrating slowly. As you're thinking of this, feel your wound and all negative forces simultaneously going along withrepparttar 126124 action ofrepparttar 126125 black stone. Let them become smaller and smaller until they have ceased to exist.

So which technique is better - imaginingrepparttar 126126 real thing or assigning a representational object to it? It all depends on you. Pick and applyrepparttar 126127 method that you are more comfortable with,repparttar 126128 one that you are more inclined to think and visualize upon.

But it's not as easy as you think. Practice makes perfect. One way you can optimizerepparttar 126129 power of imagination is by becoming more observant and meticulous. If you're going to use a certain flower in your visualization, go torepparttar 126130 park and become a keen observer of that flower. Touch it. Smell it. Feel its texture. The more senses involved,repparttar 126131 more powerful your visualization will become.

Visualization can be a very powerful tool in getting what you want in life. Practice and apply it often. You'll be amazed atrepparttar 126132 results.

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How to Tell What They Really Meant

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach

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So how do we quit imagining and figure out whatrepparttar nonverbal message meant? It takes practice. You begin with self-awareness – noticing your own nonverbal reactions. Start paying attention torepparttar 126120 things YOU do inrepparttar 126121 course of communicating. Notice when you move, when you change your facial expression, what you do with yours hands. Then hook it up with what was going on, to explain why you do these things.

Next, start observing more in others. Facial expressions and gestures can be tricky, especially if you’re in a multicultural situation. A sign of peace in one country is a gross obscenity in another. Some cultures are more facially expressive than others. A smile can mean “I agree” in one country, while in another country, direct disagreeing isn’t permitted, so a smile is just a convention.

You can study nonverbal expressions through photographs by accessing some ofrepparttar 126122 sites onrepparttar 126123 Internet.

Then start asking more questions when it’s appropriate. And it may always be appropriate as far as that goes. As my friend said … we imagine. Nobody likes to feel like you’re “mind-reading,” andrepparttar 126124 more importantrepparttar 126125 conversation,repparttar 126126 more important that you check out what you thinkrepparttar 126127 other person meant, or said, or implied. When we assume, we can get into trouble.

In fact you should check in from time-to-time just to see if they’re still paying attention. For instance someone who interviews people all day long tends to tune out if you talk more than 90 seconds.

Interjecting things such as “Was that what you had in mind?” or “Am I addressingrepparttar 126128 point in a way that’s helpful?” can bringrepparttar 126129 other person back. Your reading of nonverbal communication will tell you they’ve left when their eyes glaze over.

If you see a shift inrepparttar 126130 nonverbal that concerns you, note it, think about it, and then respond appropriately. It’s important to observe what’s going on inrepparttar 126131 other so you can keeprepparttar 126132 conversation on course. It’s part of Emotional Intelligence, social skills and good manners.

For instance, one person may want to hear allrepparttar 126133 details of your surgery, while it may be too much for another. You may need to vent your spleen about your ex-spouse or your boss, butrepparttar 126134 listener may find it too intense and become uncomfortable. If you’re getting “warding off” signals, back off.

In negotiations and sales, you must be alert to changes that can signal you’re usingrepparttar 126135 wrong approach so that you can reorient and try something different.

Being able to read nonverbal communication effectively is important to your social and professional relationships. It will affect your ability to be intimate, to sustain friendships, to influence people, and to succeed in your career.

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