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The Encyclopedia of Associations is a goldmine if you’re looking for an association related to your passion. With luck, there will be a local chapter you can contact. You can find that at your local library. To find out more about
Encyclopedia of Associations, visit: http://library.dialog.com/bluesheets/html/bl0114.html. You can also find it at your local public library.
Also, I’m an advocate of reading. A lot. Network, find mentors, have a plan, have someone hold you accountable, avoid distractions, and revisit these ten questions. :) I believe it was Jim Rohn who said, “When your ‘why’ [you want to do or have something] is clear, then
‘how’ becomes clear.”
6. How is my negative self talk creating emotional blind spots in my ability to "really go for it?"
Because of my many varied interests, I had this self- perception of being
“Jill of all Trades but Mistress of None,” so
records that played in my mind were, “No way can I be positioned as an expert.” In talking with others and writing about all that I knew, I realized how much that self-talk was holding me back.
Common statements I’ve heard from some of my former students were: “I’m not good enough.” “I’m too old,” “I’m too young,” “No one will hire me because I’m too fat,” etc. Addressing this involves a different dialogue with yourself and surrounding yourself with positive people who can appreciate your unique gifts. When that negative inner- voice tries to sneak in, try reframing your statements with a more positive spin. For example, “I can’t do this!” could be reframed as, “I just need to practice more. Then I’ll be able to do this.”
7. How does my inability to focus create a "choke point" in my process?
Analysis paralysis can be so debilitating! Take it from someone who suffered from it for years! It seemed to be compounded by
fact that I had so many interests that were seemingly unrelated to each other, and especially unrelated to
degrees I chose to get in
name of being practical. Journaling, brainstorming on paper first and then with people I trusted did wonders.
8. How does my upbringing send me messages that "this will never work?"
If people you respect told you it was best to be 100% practical and conventional but your dreams lean toward
opposite, then you are probably wondering if you should bother. Or maybe you were less fortunate, and had people who were perpetually negative. It’s hard to thrive in that kind of environment unless you have an amazing amount of inner strength from
get-go. Again, if your center of influence is filled with positive, supportive people rather than negative people, it can make all
difference.
9. How is my belief system getting in
way?
This ties a lot into
upbringing issue,
negative self-talk, and to some extent,
fear issue above. I heard a speaker recently say, “A belief gets its strength from
evidence (your life experiences) that supports it.” What starts as an idea can become a conviction.
As an artistically, musically, mathematically inclined eccentric, I got called weird a lot in high school. So one of
beliefs that really stayed with me for years was, “Eccentric people will never fit in.” I now embrace my uniqueness regardless of what
majority believes. What are some of
beliefs that you hold that may be getting in your way?
10. How do I recover when life keeps throwing me curve balls?
Rest! Be kind to—no, SPOIL yourself. If you need to vent, I say go for it, but choose whom you vent to carefully. Not everyone appreciates a good rant. My journal, I’ve found, is
safest place to do it. Treat these curve balls as learning experiences, then get right back on that horse and try again.
I heard something that really inspired me from speaker Jim Stovall. He said (paraphrased), “We live up to
expectations of ourselves or what we allow others to expect of us… That big dream wouldn’t have been put inside you if you didn’t have
capacity to do it. Change your life by changing your mind.”
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