We can ask ourselves, "How would I feel if I took Plan A?" or we can envision ourselves doing Plan A and see how our body reacts, or we can ask, "If I did Plan A could I sleep at night?"

Good decisions are values-based and our feelings guide us to a solution that works for us. The really important things in life are "never a thought to begin with".

You can look at attire of job candidate, check her references, assess her grammar, put her through a stress test, and read her resume carefully, but decision of whether to hire her or not is going to be based on that nagging feeling in back of our mind that it just isn't a good fit, or that inexplicable 'something' that tells you this candidate is exactly right for job.

In order to make good decision, turn up volume on your intuition, and go with it.

It isn't a zero-sum universe. One person's success does not come at expense of someone else's. Hard, soft, male, female, have nothing to do with it. Other qualities do, including emotional literacy, hard work, intentionality and authenticity.

Success is a win-win situation. There's plenty of success to go around, and using your "soft" skills, your emotional intelligence are what will get you there in long run.