Next, distort images until other person looks absurd. Dress person in silly clothes or even no clothes! Change their voice until it sounds squeaky like a cartoon character. Slow down their speech until it sounds like a worn out tape. Then speed up speech until they sound like a bumble bee.

Play scene backwards, upside down or with zero gravity. Do whatever you have to until scene is ludicrous.

Keep playing with sounds and images until you are either laughing or at least smiling when you think of intimidator.

At this point you have turned fear into a more resourceful emotional state. Well done!

When you are new to this technique you will need to run through it several times until you get hang of it. And for difficult situations I recommend using it daily to shake off those unpleasant feelings of fear you have associated to that person.

4 Keep benefits of fear and not fear itself

After step 2 above you know how your fear is serving you.

Let us say fear gives you alertness, safety and carefulness.

How are you going to behave carefully around intimidator without feeling fear?

You need to write down or run through likely scenarios in your mind until you are well prepared to handle whatever is thrown at you.

This step is very important and you are in trouble if you skip it.

In my case I was mentally ready to work elsewhere, I saved up some money so that if I did get fired it would not be end of world and I was always careful to only promise what I knew I could deliver.

If I had just changed how I felt without dealing effectively with situation I would have been in a very difficult situation.

Your goal ought to be to feel resourceful and to be intelligent in how you deal with difficult people.

Using these tips will help you. How much this information helps will depend on how much energy you put into applying this approach.

When I look back on my aggressive boss situation I know that I could have done even more to handle it better. So like you I am always learning.

The important thing is to get started and keep heading in right direction. And take even one step each day to take you forward.

NB: get help immediately if you are dealing with a violent individual

If you do not know answer why waste time guessing when you can open your mouth and ask?

For example, say there is a person in your community you just cannot get along with. Find some people who have a good rapport with that difficult person and get their input.

You may have got wrong end of stick for some reason and as a result you cannot get anywhere with that person. Whereas with right outlook you may have no problem getting rapport.

You may never know what to do unless you ask!

3 Learn How Your Mind Works

Once you take charge of your thoughts and your emotions you will be able to deal with whatever challenges come your way. Until that happens you will always be at mercy of ups and downs of life.

The most valuable gift you can give yourself is ability to master your emotional state.

The moment I finally understood how to do this was day my life changed forever. I discovered how to effectively deal with any challenge without becoming overwhelmed.

Until you learn how to run your brain it really is like having a super computer without a user manual. The power to persist when you get frustrated will never be available to you until you commit to learning how to manage your thoughts and feelings.

Feelings of frustration, discouragement and overwhelm are not random occurrences. It all comes down to how you use your mind.

Take control of your emotional state and life becomes a lot easier.

And when you are in a great emotional state it is hard to lack confidence, it is hard to feel nervous meeting new people and it becomes very easy to enjoy expressing your opinions.