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At different points during
day, work on your self-talk. Cancel negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts about yourself.
There are many good free resources on Internet. Here is one inspirational site: http://www.unityonline.org/read_daily_dailyword.htm . SelfGrowth.com is another good one, www.selfgrowth.com, and you’ll find inspirational affirmations here: http://www.susandunn.cc/inspirational_quotations.htm .
You would also benefit from subscribing to a good eZine. I have a nice informational and inspirational one, and there are others. Look up “free eZines” on a search engine.
Whatever you do, avoid “victim” stance, i.e., believing that you’re “helpless and hopeless.” There’s an affirmation you can use: “I am able to help myself and I have hope.” Set small goals, take baby steps and look at this as a new, long-term, exciting project.
Work on learning optimism. I have a course on this, and there are other resources on Internet. It’s a state-of-mind that you can learn that increases your chance of success and happiness.
In Emotional Intelligence, we recommend solution-focused problem-solving, not emotional-based problem-solving. Just as in physics, two objects can’t occupy same space, so your mind can’t hold both negative and positive thoughts at same time.
When you find yourself getting negative, “cancel” and put something positive in its place. In other words, distract yourself while you take action to remedy things. The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. Give yourself incremental learning goals, and reward yourself copiously for each thing you do that takes you further toward your goal.
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