Let’s say you had a father who told you that you were a failure and that you would never amount to anything. In this case, you could first tune into pain and anger surrounding this relationship and tap on these feelings. Most likely, memories will come up. Was there a specific situation when he put you down? What did you feel? Go through every memory and feeling. Often, emotional intensity decreases immediately.

Another example: You have low self-esteem, because you are overweight. There are several approaches possible. Do you have any cravings? Tap on each and every one of them. Do you dislike your body? Tap on your specific feeling. Emotional pain? Get specific and tap on it.

Sometimes, especially with complex problems, it is more effective to do tapping under guidance of an EFT practitioner. However, any tapping on a specific issue and pain, anger, or sadness that surrounds it, helps. Dissolve negative emotions that control your life, and high self-esteem emerges – naturally.

So now...... Who Has The Power?

You.....or your unpleasant memories of past failures.

These memories have effect of actually pulling us back into time and then causing us to have a distorted view of present.

We try to block out more unpleasant ones, but doesn't it just seem more we resist them stronger they become.

By giving our attention to these renegade self-defeating memories aren't we in reality, only amplifying and giving them more strength and a life they wouldn't ordinarily have.

As our minds get clouded over with re-plays of past events these memories rob from us spontaneous creativity, self confidence, and further distort our perception of what is happening now, which only serves to affect our ability to perform to our capabilities.

Is that what you really want?

So next time you go to do something, watch yourself and find out who has power in situation.....you..... or your self-defeating memory patterns.

Isn't it about time you took back power and started controlling your life!.

Simply refuse to give further animation to these memory patterns by re-focusing your attention on what is happening in present moment rather than on those past memories.