How to Escape Out of Thought Traps?

Written by Oz Merchant, C.Ht., NLP Trainer & Coach

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Her intellect’s safety alerts kicked in immediately. She got very defensive and went on tirade about how she was right, and no one could see all that she went through day in and day out, raising three kids while working, and if her blood didn’t boil she would become just as lazy as her son, andrepparttar whole house would be a wreck.

Then she endedrepparttar 126116 call by saying that she was perfectly fine, and it was her son who hadrepparttar 126117 problem.

Now how many of you identified with her story, sympathized with her stance? Did you get sucked intorepparttar 126118 trap? Did you let her logical retort validate your own stance?

Go back and read it again. What did she do? How did she trap herself? Her intellect screamed bloody murderrepparttar 126119 moment we came up on her sacred cow of cleanliness.

It started by building a logical argument around why she was right and he (or me, for challenging her) was inrepparttar 126120 wrong. She used that along withrepparttar 126121 lack of validation and recognition from everyone else to validate her logic. And finally, she felt compelled to share it with me to externalizerepparttar 126122 trap and manifest it into reality.

By sharing,repparttar 126123 logic is not just a construct in her mind anymore. Adding voice and breath to it begins to give it a life of its own. This is whererepparttar 126124 pointing begins. And remember whenever there is one finger pointing outwards, there are three fingers pointing back torepparttar 126125 person doingrepparttar 126126 pointing.

Getting Out ofrepparttar 126127 Trap

Now that you know what to look out for, you can begin usingrepparttar 126128 tools below to stay out as well as help others to stay out of those thought traps. Remember this takes practice. The hardest step is to recognize it. The moment you do recognize it you are in a sense already on your way out. But then it is about freeing yourself fromrepparttar 126129 logic thatrepparttar 126130 intellect has spun aroundrepparttar 126131 trap.

Even then you may find it is easier to spot other people’s traps quicker than your own. Andrepparttar 126132 reason for that is because your own logic is most seductive to you not to others. So while they may be seduced by their logic, you can clearly see through it. And it certainly worksrepparttar 126133 other way around as well. So go slowly with this at first. You don’t want to find yourself atrepparttar 126134 end ofrepparttar 126135 week with no friends because you challenged all their sacred cows without maintaining rapport.

Nowrepparttar 126136 simplest way is to first recognizerepparttar 126137 trap and then begin questioning it.

Who, What, Where, When, and How.

Avoid “Why” because you will only get justifications, which only help buildrepparttar 126138 thought blockade stronger.

For example, when working on your own thought trap, you may want to begin like this:

Who says you’re right? How do you know? According to what criteria? When am I wrong? When wasrepparttar 126139 last time? Where was it? What was going on then? Who was I wanting validation from then? How did I get it then? What did I do as a result of it? What other choices did I have available to me then? What about now? How would things be different if I responded differently?

If you are familiar withrepparttar 126140 meta-model, you can use it to guide you to different ways of looking atrepparttar 126141 trap? And as you start findingrepparttar 126142 edges,repparttar 126143 boundaries ofrepparttar 126144 confine, you can findrepparttar 126145 doorway out ofrepparttar 126146 trap.

Another tool is to use your vertical and lateral thinking strategies to leap you or others out ofrepparttar 126147 trap. In some cases, these strategies will not get you totally out ofrepparttar 126148 trap, but it will begin expandrepparttar 126149 boundaries, giving you an opportunity to find your way out. Let’s userepparttar 126150 lady who called me as an example.

(Staying vertical to her position) I could have said to her, “Well, if you can’t keep a house a clean without your blood boiling, then perhaps you should hire a 24-hour maid.”

Vertical thinking leads you up and downrepparttar 126151 same line of thinking, regardless of whether you are speaking at levels of abstraction or levels of specificity;repparttar 126152 topic doesn't change.

(Going lateral to her position) Or I could have said, “A friend of mine had a problem with a wrecked house, so she went out and got herself an apartment—No more wrecked homes.”

Lateral thinking begins one place and ends up at an entirely different place. A conversation may begin at A and end up at D, with transitions B and C explicitly stated or just processed internally by one or both parties.

As you begin discovering your own traps, whether they appear as beliefs, values, or ideals, and regardless of how many layers of logic that are piled on top, you now know how to dig your way out. The more you do this,repparttar 126153 more flexibility you will create within your own system. You will find that you don’t fall into your own thought traps or anyone else’s.

Remember to go easy on yourself and to enjoyrepparttar 126154 process!

As the director of the CORE Changes Institute, Oz Merchant, trains and coaches individuals for personal and professional excellence utilizing cutting-edge transformation technologies such as NLP, Hypnosis, TFT, and EFT to name a few. Get access to the Success Skills E-Letter and remember to get your free copy of his latest e-book "11 Simple Lessons to Manifest Your Destiny," at


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Hencerepparttar electrophysiological data as well asrepparttar 126115 visual, neuropsychological studies cited above have shown that yoga practice improves diverse aspects of auditory and visual stimuli in normal volunteers. An interesting difference in auditory perception (based on AEP-MLRs) were also seen in congenitally blind children (14) and adults (15) compared to those with normal sight. The changes suggested improved auditory perception which could be a compensatory mechanism of auditory sensation inrepparttar 126116 presence of poor vision. The effect of yoga has been observed onrepparttar 126117 perception of situations. Examples of a change inrepparttar 126118 way persons perceive situations was observed in two separate groups of subjects. A study on 69 aged persons (above 60 years of age), staying in an old age home, showed that after 6 months of yoga practice there was a reduction in their feelings of depression, based onrepparttar 126119 Geriatric Depression Scale suggesting a favorable change inrepparttar 126120 wy they perceived their circumstances (16). Another study on ten patients with breast cancer (stage 2 and 3), showed reduction in depression and anxiety (using Beck’s Depression Scale, Spielberger’s State and Trait Anxiety Inventory), after practicing yoga for 6 months. Hence yoga can probably have positive effects on both sensory perception and onrepparttar 126121 way situations or circumstances are perceived (17). Finally, there may be more ways of perceivingrepparttar 126122 world than we know about. Asrepparttar 126123 renowned sensory neurophysiologist, Vernon B. Mountacastle said: “Each of us lives within…..the prison of his own brain. Projecting from it are millions of fragile sensory nerve fibers, in groups uniquely adapted to samplerepparttar 126124 energetic states ofrepparttar 126125 world around us: heat, light, force, and chemical composition. That is all we ever know of it directly; all else is logical inference” (18). Yoga may allow an advanced practitioner to develop `siddhis’ or special powers, which may hence allow such a person to have a different, possibly `expanded’ perception ofrepparttar 126126 world.

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