If you do not know answer why waste time guessing when you can open your mouth and ask?

For example, say there is a person in your community you just cannot get along with. Find some people who have a good rapport with that difficult person and get their input.

You may have got wrong end of stick for some reason and as a result you cannot get anywhere with that person. Whereas with right outlook you may have no problem getting rapport.

You may never know what to do unless you ask!

3 Learn How Your Mind Works

Once you take charge of your thoughts and your emotions you will be able to deal with whatever challenges come your way. Until that happens you will always be at mercy of ups and downs of life.

The most valuable gift you can give yourself is ability to master your emotional state.

The moment I finally understood how to do this was day my life changed forever. I discovered how to effectively deal with any challenge without becoming overwhelmed.

Until you learn how to run your brain it really is like having a super computer without a user manual. The power to persist when you get frustrated will never be available to you until you commit to learning how to manage your thoughts and feelings.

Feelings of frustration, discouragement and overwhelm are not random occurrences. It all comes down to how you use your mind.

Take control of your emotional state and life becomes a lot easier.

And when you are in a great emotional state it is hard to lack confidence, it is hard to feel nervous meeting new people and it becomes very easy to enjoy expressing your opinions.

After doing this exercise you will feel much happier. And you will have done it without having to spend any money on expensive clothes, cars or holidays!

2 Spread happiness

Now that you feel happy you will radiate this to whoever you spend time with. Happiness is infectious. Just be yourself and top up happiness by quietly asking yourself above three questions when you are in company.

3 Show your friends and family how to be happy

Depending on how well you know your friends you may want to approach this step in one of two ways.

If you want to play it safe ask your friend to talk about times when she was happy. Let her talk and just listen as she relives those wonderful times from past.

Share your own favorite moments too. Enjoy yourself!

If people you are with are more open to ideas we are discussing here take them through steps I covered above in section one. Ask them these questions:

- who do you love most in my life? - what do you love most about myself? - what things do you love most in my life?

The Dalai Lama teaches that purpose of life is to be happy. Go on and live a life of purpose with your family and friends!