How Well Do You Know Your Partner?

Written by Dave Turo-Shields, ACSW, LCSW


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1. If my partner suddenly inherited a decent fortune what would they want to do?

2. What does my partner value most in life?

3. What are my partner's religious beliefs?

4. What does my partner worry aboutrepparttar most?

5. What are my partner's 3 most favorite movies and rock groups?

6. Can my partner listrepparttar 130762 relatives I likerepparttar 130763 least?

7. Does my partner know who my best friends are?

8. Could your partner tell you in detail what his/her first reaction was to you when you met?

9. Can your partner tell you what you stress overrepparttar 130764 most?

10. Is your partner your best friend?

The fall from friendship to disillusionment usually begins 2-3 years after marriage. Folks often are bewildered, saying, "What happened?" My wife and I can tell you from experience, both personal and professional, that a big part of what happens is what doesn't happen after that first year or two together. Once you feel you know all there is to know about your partner, conversations slow down and become more challenging. You stop asking questions, or you stop giving meaningful answers. This is whenrepparttar 130765 "work" of marriage begins. It takes effort and interest to continue to ask, even when you think you already knowrepparttar 130766 answer!

The great part is that you are not static, unchanging individuals. Your interests change as well as friendships; some friendships fade away and other new ones begin and flourish. New hobbies are discovered. Children may be added to make a family. Nowrepparttar 130767 center ofrepparttar 130768 relationship revolves aroundrepparttar 130769 babies. Babies teach you things you could have never learned had they not come along. You experience a new level of sacrifice, sleep for one! And you discover how you thought about parenting may really be different than how you are actually doing it.

See, you are always in a state of growth. The same questions asked today may bring fresh responses as you each grow. Continue to build your relationship into one ofrepparttar 130770 best friendships you have. I may call it "work" but it'srepparttar 130771 best work you can do forrepparttar 130772 happiness ofrepparttar 130773 relationship.



~~ @@ ~~ Dave Turo-Shields, ACSW, LCSW is an author, university faculty member, success coach and veteran psychotherapist whose passion is guiding others to their own success in life. For weekly doses of the webs HOTTEST success tips, sign up for Dave’s powerful “Feeling Great!” ezine at http://www.Overcoming-Depression.com ~~ @@ ~~


Feng Shui Monsters Under Your Bed

Written by Stephanie Roberts


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- Guns and knives. I really hope you don't feelrepparttar need to have these in your house at all. All that potential violence is not conducive to a good night's sleep, no matter how "safe" it may make you feel. A feng shui friend once told me she'd consulted for a guy who collected knives, and who kept that collection under his bed. No wonder he complained of a long string of failed relationships! Regardless of any other qualities he may or may not have had, that's a lot of cutting chi underlying what should be a place for romantic connection.

These examples should give you an idea ofrepparttar 130760 sort of potentially disruptive effectrepparttar 130761 stuff under your bed can have. If you must userepparttar 130762 under-bed space for storage, reserve it for soft, cuddly items like extra bedding or your winter sweaters.

You may even find a good use for that space by placing something with positive symbolic meaning there, so you can take conscious advantage ofrepparttar 130763 proximity and duration effect. For example, laying a mirror face up underrepparttar 130764 bed is a recommended feng shui sure for insomnia; symbolicallyrepparttar 130765 mirror reflectsrepparttar 130766 bed "downward" thus drawing into a deep, restful sleep. For a child who is frightened of imaginary monsters underrepparttar 130767 bed, placing a super-tough-guy action figure under there could provide some important protection and security.

A feng shui client recently asked if it was okay to keep her empty suitcases underrepparttar 130768 bed. If you enjoy traveling and want to do more of it, then havingrepparttar 130769 luggage underrepparttar 130770 bed may help to encourage that. Insiderepparttar 130771 suitcases you can put guidebooks, photos, travel accessories, and other items related torepparttar 130772 places where you'd like to go. For example, if you would love to take a trip to Paris put a guidebook torepparttar 130773 city, a French-English phrase book, and a photo ofrepparttar 130774 Eiffel Tower in an empty suitcase under your bed. Add some French currency or traveler's checks forrepparttar 130775 future trip. The suitcase and its contents is now a feng shui activation to help make your travel dreams come true.

Onrepparttar 130776 other hand, if you've been traveling a lot lately and would like to stay home for a change, then I definitely recommend finding some other place to keep your luggage. If you absolutely, positively have no alternative to keeping suitcases underrepparttar 130777 bed -- and you really want a break from travel -- put a rock in each one and cover them with a blanket, to help them settle in for a long rest and to keep you grounded at home.

(c) copyright 2004 Stephanie Rogerts

STEPHANIE ROBERTS is a feng shui consultant and writer in Maui, HI. She is the author of the popular "Fast Feng Shui" book series and the "Clutter Free Forever!" Home Coaching Program. For more tips and information, visit her websites at http://www.fastfengshui.com and http://www.clutterfreeforever.com.


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