- call them when they aren’t expecting it. Who answered, are they angry, are they whispering, are they being secretive, whose voice was it on answering machine?

- try to find their number in a phone book.

- ask some of other people you have chatted with at your dating site if they know anything. Keep it polite and ‘oh, by way’ so message doesn’t get back you have been checking up on their facts.

2.No Sepia-Toned Photos Please

The biggest reason for telling lies in online dating is, easily, to deceive someone about your physical appearance.

Its common for people to use old photos from a more atractive time in their life.

Old photos are pretty easy to spot. Look for: - color and image qualities of photo, - hair styles, - facial hair styles, - clothing styles, - background images like old advertising or logos - apparent age in photo compared to written age in profile.

Of course if there is no photo you can’t tell. I would say never bother contacting anyone who doesn’t have a photo.

Surveys have shown that 80% of people agree with me.

And, unless dater has only been online dating for a week or so, don’t tolerate any excuses like: - no camera, - no scanner, - haven’t got around to it yet.

Please! If this person is serious about finding a relationship, they can easily get off their pants and spend 10 bucks on getting a photo scanned or having one taken.

I could go on but once again we’ve run out of room. In next article in this series you will learn about what I call 'Perpetually Unavailable Syndrome' and what to do when it occurs.

Until then,

Your Truly, Adam Coole

My friends and I were at a straight bar and a buzz-cut, red-neck from local military academy lured my friend outside to ‘make-out’.

When he didn’t return we went looking for him and found him out cold on sidewalk – bashed!

How horrible some human beings can be….

Anyway, same thing goes for people who are only pretending to be single and available, but are actually either married or already in a relationship.

They may not physically bash you but it is still a form of abuse.

They maliciously put you at risk of sexual disease, HIV and having your heart wrenched out and thrown to hounds. Anyway you look at it, it can’t end well….for you!

Well that brings us to end of this brief article.

My main message for you today is you have to be on your guard and be aware many onliners are going to deceive you. I wish it weren’t true but it’s a fact of life.

Thankfully, with right tools, you can greatly reduce your exposure to risk and keep yourself safe.

In next article in this series, you will begin to learn how to detect online ads or profiles from trolls.

Specifically you will learn about what I’ve called ‘Move Out Ya Bum!’ and ‘The Pungency of Desperation’.

Discover what they mean and what to do if you spot either of them.

Until then,

Your Truly, Adam Coole