How To Find Your REAL Self Again

Written by Kathy Gates

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3. Listen to your heart. Sounds easy enough, but byrepparttar time we're adults, most of us have stopped listening to our hearts and go only with our heads. Those two must reconnect in order to find your real self. It's easy to become accustomed to thinking about your feelings instead of really feeling them. Instead of asking yourself what you think about something, ask yourself what you feel. Ask yourself why it's important. What are you comfortable with? What's difficult for you? Be careful not to get hung-up on a specific goal, when what you're really after is a specific feeling. Keep an open mind torepparttar 123897 feelings, and be willing to adjustrepparttar 123898 methods you use to achieve them.

4. Uncover your natural strengths and your natural talents. Trust your instinct. Look back at your childhood, and make a list of things that you used to love to do. Ask why you stopped doing them. If you always loved adventure, it's a good bet that's a part ofrepparttar 123899 REAL you. Notice what things you now do during your day - even if only for a few minutes - when you feelrepparttar 123900 most happy. If you have no idea whatrepparttar 123901 real you is, begin to experiment with things that you find you used to like.

5. Look back again over your life, and begin to remember times when you feltrepparttar 123902 happiest. What were you doing? Who were you with? What skills were you using? Be willing to tellrepparttar 123903 truth about who you are, and what you want in your life. Stop trying to "be" who or what you think you ought to be. Instead, determine that you are comfortable with what you want in your life, and how you want to addressrepparttar 123904 world.

Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach, helps people set priorities and goals, take actions, make changes, and reshape their lives. She is the author numerous articles both online and in print, an Ebook and several Email Coaching Programs available at, call 480.998.5843

7 Ways To Push Past Procrastination

Written by Kathy Gates

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4. Doesrepparttar task seem huge, even overwhelming? Push Past Procrastination by breakingrepparttar 123896 job down into smaller steps to get it under control and manageable. Instead of considering paintingrepparttar 123897 whole inside ofrepparttar 123898 house, focus on only one room or even one wall. Schedule a specific amount of time that you will spend on it each day, or week. Set realistic goals for yourself, instead of expecting to accomplish everything immediately.

5. Are there too many things demanding my attention so that nothing of real value gets done? Push Past Procrastination by setting priorities. Do things that are important to you and your life. Develop a filter system so that only what's contributing to your goals gets in. Making a task easier often comes with making a choice to adjust your schedule, re-allocate your money, or choosing how to spend your energy.

6. Is this really my goal, or is it someone else's? Are you doing it to please someone? Obviously there's nothing wrong with pleasingrepparttar 123899 people you love. But if you find yourself in a role or job that no longer fits, it's a signal that you will need to find another route to take. Push Past Procrastination by examining how you spend your time, what roles you are playing, and how they relate to who you are at this time in your life.

7. Am I afraid ofrepparttar 123900 outcome? Procrastination may show up in employment whenrepparttar 123901 fear of finishing one project without having another onrepparttar 123902 horizon may mean that you would get laid off. Procrastination may show up if you fear being blamed for bad results. Procrastination may show up in personal situations as a fear of losing what you now have, even if it's not what you want. Push Past Procrastination by having reserves. Without reserves, you live in fear. Fear causes you to make decisions you don't like, which in turn makes you procrastinate. Build reserves and fear will no longer slow you down.

Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach, can help you set priorities and goals, take action, make changes, and reshape your life. She is the author of "7 SECRETS for a Great Life" Ebook available at

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