•What do you like doing?

•What made you most proud of yourself during your entire life?

•What is it that you always wanted to do and you never found time? (include here anything from visiting friends, to going to Antarctica, or seeing your dentist)

•What role does money play in your life?

•What is it more important for you, you family life or your career?

•How much do you depend on others?

If you are worried about a certain decision, let all questions be related to that issue. If you’re just confused in general, when asking questions, think about common topics that one has to deal with during his life. Don’t forget to write down answers. Try to concentrate and to be sincere; after all, nobody will judge you.

All these questions will help you determine exactly where you stand and what is it that you want form life. All you have to do is to get right interpretation of your own replies. In order to do that, help yourself to a coup of tea or your favorite coffee and take time to analyze them thoroughly. Mark with a red pen whatever you find pride worthy answers and with a black one things that don’t make you proud.

Post list somewhere where you can see it more than once a day, or post it in more than one place. You’ll notice that, step by step, even unwillingly, black things on your list will start turning red. Don’t forget to renew list when most of it has turned red! It is best way to always be aware what your expectations from life are!

Good luck!

Earlier in week something happened at hotel that was similar to Whataburger experience, but not nearly as funny. A boy about 10 years old was struggling with door, as he was trying to enter with a clothes cart. I hurried over to hold door. He never even said “thank you.” But, it gets worse. His dad stood nearby, looking very successful in his coat and tie. He never expressed appreciation either. What a sad example.

The incident is similar to hamburger story in this: They’re both result of a type of “thoughtlessness.” In first case young lady was just doing what she was trained to do. Go for up sale. It never occurred to her that someone might order a small burger for a reason. No harm done. The second case was simply “thoughtless” ingratitude.

On brighter side, later in week, at an IHOP a half dozen teenage girls went through door as I held it open. Every single one of them thanked me. Different upbringing – different thoughts.

In all of this, I can’t help being reminded that Bible says Jesus healed ten lepers, and only one returned to thank him. We should not expect better. It’s a waste of time and energy that is better spent learning ways to show gratitude.

BARBER-OSOPHY: The genuinely successful are usually thoughtfully thankful.