For example, I wanted to last MUCH longer in bed. Up until that point, my definition of lasting long was about thirty minutes. But I knew I couldn't keep multiple girls around with this kind of sloppy performance. Other guys can go for thirty minutes and that doesn't constitute monopoly power.

So I began digging around and talking to self-proclaimed "sex gurus" and "tantric masters" to get some answers. I quickly found that people either knew what they were doing but couldn't explain it, or they had no formal system to transfer teachings to someone that wasn't experienced.

Over time I put it all together and learned to ride on edge of orgasm hours and, conversely, have multiple orgasms. I choose when to ejaculate and don't cum out of neediness but save my orgasm as her reward. In Legendary Lover I lay out procedures to penetrate her inner mind, dreams, and sexual fantasies to embed and turn yourself into her ideal lover - a critical skill, because every woman is different and you CANNOT stick to one single lovemaking method, no matter how good you may think it is.

Okay, back to story in lifeguard shack.

I can't go into all details of what I did that night. But, for example, I would control how long I lasted in order to maximize her pleasure. Lasting longer is achieved through a simple exercise I do in breath control and a little mind trick. As soon as I felt orgasm welling up inside me, I held it in check by placing my tongue on roof of my mouth and breathing deep and relaxed. As I breathed in, I pulled up on my testicles. As I exhaled, I let them go (you have to practice this a few times from before hand). I imagined that sexual energy I was generating in my genitals was being pulled up my spine, like a straw, by deep inhales, and into my head.

Anytime I would get anywhere near orgasm, more pleasure I felt, I was simply able to redirect warmth and sexual energy back into girl (I know it sounds weird, but women can feel it... and I guarantee that NO guy does this). That night I was able to last two hours with this woman until she was asking me to come all over her.

Of course, we paid price for lovemaking in a public place. We cuddled afterward and fell asleep together... to be very embarrassingly woken up next morning by a lifeguard dude at 6:00 AM in morning. Ouch!

No matter, my mission was complete. She told me numerously how she was blown away by my stamina and "abilities" as she called it. She kept calling me non-stop. It's strange really. You can really become a sexual god to these women, assuming you can monopolize what they really want in bed. It's like it becomes an addiction for them.

To this day, girl I laid at beach house still sees me and we have an open door relationship together, even though she knows what I do. It simply amazes me however as to numbers of men who have NO IDEA what they're doing. DON'T be left in dark. I created Legendary Lover to give my students a detailed road map to follow to sexually fulfill women - I think of it as "second chapter" of Seduction Science. Take a look.

By Derek Vitalio

The kind of person you will pick will be totally different when a loving adult is choosing than when your wounded self is choosing. The people we pick have a similar level of woundedness and a similar level of emotional health. Obviously, more you have done your inner work to connect with Divine Love and bring that love within to take loving care of yourself, more you will be attracted to someone also does this.

When you pick from your wounded self, you will pick someone whom you believe wants job of filling you up. The problem is that other person may be attempting to fill you up in hopes that you will also fill up him or her. Two people who each want to get love rather than share love will eventually find themselves very disappointed with each other. They will each blame other for not loving them in way they want to be loved. When relationships break up, it is often because one or both partners are not taking responsibility for their own feelings and self-worth and are blaming other for their resulting unhappiness.

If you are so attached to someone that you feel you can’t live without that person, try learning to give to yourself and others what it is you want from this person. Your job is to become person to yourself that you want other person to be. Then you will be able to be “in love” rather than “in need.” You will be able to love another person for who he or she is rather than for what this person can do for you. Instead of needing to get love, you can give love from heart for joy of it and feel filled in giving.