How Stressed-Out Are YOU?

Written by Dr. David Thomas


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It’s indeed a vicious cycle of thinking that is common to all of us. Fortunately, once you know how, you can think your way out of these situations as quickly as you got in.

So where do you start?

First, flag such have-to, must, need-to statements in your head. Then replacerepparttar needs, musts and have-tos with preferences, desires, and wants.

Then when something doesn’t go according to your desires, reducerepparttar 130022 awfuls and terribles to simply, bad. Then rest-assure yourself that you can stand it.

What if you don’t make it torepparttar 130023 bank? What if you’re late picking uprepparttar 130024 kids?? Well, it’s not what you wanted, it may indeed even have consequences which may be bad, but inrepparttar 130025 overall scheme of things it isn’t awful and you CAN stand it.

A great deal of stress is caused from within by this “I-can’t-stand-it-it is.”

Remember: whenever you hear yourself saying “need-to, have-to, got-to, etc” replace it with want-to or would like to. Substitute needs with desires; musts with preferences.

And remind yourself that awful things will not happen if your desires are not met. You may not likerepparttar 130026 results if things don’t go your way, but you can indeed standrepparttar 130027 feelings. It may not be good if things don’t fall into place like you want, butrepparttar 130028 world will continue to spin and you will be able to handle it.

It takes some practice. Don’t expect it to happen for you like magic. Pay attention to your self-talk, listen forrepparttar 130029 what-if statements, flagrepparttar 130030 must and need statements. Dispute them with wants and desires. Do it vigorously. With time it will become second nature, and you’ll noticerepparttar 130031 lack of stress in your life.

Dr. David L. Thomas, LMHC Dr. Thomas is a mental health counselor and psychotherapist. He has helped literally thousands of people over the past 21 years overcome stress, depression, anxiety, anger, substance abuse, relationship problems, and more. Dr. Thomas is a Founding Member of The StressGroup www.stressgroup.com and co-author of Quit Smoking-Be Happy www.quitsmoking-behappy.com


Recognize the Early Signs of Burnout

Written by Yasmeen Abdur-Rahman


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* If you haven't read a good book lately, start today. Go torepparttar nearest bookstore (Barnes & Noble or Border’s) and order a latté then enjoy yourself. * Don't skip your vacations and breaks. Spend your breaks meditating, praying or reading. Don't bring work or your laptop with you on vacation. * Use technology to your advantage. Letrepparttar 130020 voicemail pick up your messages. Ask those who have email access to send their responses to your email account. That way, you won't have to respond immediately. * Meet for brunch or dinner, at least once a month, with a group of close friends who share your common goals.

Remember, take care of your body because it is yours to cherish. If you don't, life will be hard to manage, and every little incident, small or large, that happens will become a huge risk towards a sound, healthy life.

Yasmeen Abdur-Rahman, Lifestyle Entrepreneur Coach and owner of The Brownstone Workshop in Cary, NC – http://www.thebrownstoneworkshop.bigstep.com, or call 919-319-6271 or email mailto:yasmeen033@aol.com for a ‘free’ consultation. This article could be reproduced only by including the author’s credentials.


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