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What radical transformation, then, would it take to reshape a shy person into an extroverted, socially adept one? Where can you learn to meet and greet any and all encounters skillfully and with confidence?
First, realize that advanced language skills are but subtle elaborations or enhancement of what we already know and do, yet of a somewhat higher order. Additional examples include listening, picking up on nonverbal cues, and having a sense of
other individual's personal space. Finally,
high-arts: being able to start a conversation with a total stranger, knowing when to wait and when to act.
IT IS OUR NATURE as human beings to seek affiliation, to make friends. But sometimes it can be hard for a person to reach out and create conversation. Most people want to like, want to love, want to connect, but they are afraid. Things get in
way of their innate desire; things like FEAR OF REJECTION or uncertainty about WHAT TO SAY FIRST.
The start of a great relationships begins with "a great opening line." It is knowing what to say first and how to sustain
conversation that gets attention and BUILDS CONFIDENCE.
TRUE AND LASTING PERSONAL CONFIDENCE flows from
knowledge and certainty that you will function skillfully and convincingly while at ease, in all social or business encounters. What helps shapes your fate is your ability to stand your ground in any confrontation -
knowledge that you will always prevail.
Self-confidence will also grow as you depend less on fortuitous happenstance, on wishing and hoping - and realize that you can make your choices and actions a consequence of clarity of purpose. You will become a stronger person as you see yourself acquiring and applying new language skills.
Total confidence is primarily rooted in possessing
verbal skills of capturing control of conversations and confrontations. It is simply a matter of knowing what to say and exactly how to say it to get
desired results. This is what
Oscar Bruce publications will put into your life.
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