How Do You Habitually Treat Yourself? Written by Rosella Aranda
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with constant, abiding, unconditional acceptance that we all crave. ~ Tips for Improvement ~ Tip #1 - Every time you look in mirror, look yourself in eye. Stay there, don’t look away. (Some people have trouble doing even this much.) Now, smile at yourself with just your eyes, nothing phony. Acknowledge face in glass as a dear friend, whose opinion you admire, whose support you feel privileged to have. THIS is person you most want on your side. Not big “they” out there, as in “What will ‘they’ think?” It is now: “What do YOU think, my dear friend in looking glass?” Tip #2 – Immediately drop any negative, hateful or belittling remarks to yourself. This includes any unspoken comments. For example, do you ever look at yourself in mirror and groan? I’m sorry, but I must tell you that this is just plain rude! How do you think you would react if someone else did that to you? Wouldn’t you be insulted and hurt and just a little appalled at that person’s bad manners? And would it ever occur to you to treat one of your friends that way? You wouldn’t do it! You would realize how unkind and tactless such a reaction would be. You would probably look at your friend with compassionate concern. You might wonder if he is sick or if he’s been getting enough rest, but you certainly wouldn’t look at him and say, “Ugh!” So why is it that people let themselves get away with treating themselves so shabbily? Perhaps no one has ever pointed this out to you before. Or maybe you have never given yourself permission to treat yourself gently before.
Now that you’ve been made aware of this, I trust you will find it easy and highly desirable to make these simple changes. And these two changes alone will result in some profound internal shifts. So new order of day is this: If it’s not something that you would say or do to a cherished friend, then you do not say or do it to yourself, period. I hope that you will give these techniques a serious workout . Your emotional well-being is well worth effort. It is foundation upon which all else will be built.
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Let's Get to the Bottom of Low Self-EsteemWritten by Rosella Aranda
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early childhood experiences. I can hear it already. “Oh, no, don’t give me that ‘Poor Little Kid’ routine!” Okay, I won’t. Instead, I’ll give you “Who IS This Little Kid?” routine. When we go delving into our past to determine underlying dynamics of our psyches, goal is: - Not to cast blame - Not to pass judgment - Not to fob off our responsibility onto someone else We’re not looking for what is good or what is bad, but simply what IS. It is vital that we grant ourselves permission to look closely at what happened to us as very young children. We are searching for clues to Truth of our early history. Our goal is simply to appreciate our own personal saga and become fonder of ourselves in process. As we do so, we will automatically feel more entitled to be happy and fulfilled in both our work and love lives. That is our ultimate goal, and a worthier goal could not be had. Where Else Do You Think You Can Look? If your first reaction is to dismiss this idea as something you’ve heard about before, be aware that “knowing about” something is a far cry from understanding it or applying it. And if you’re one of many who think you “don’t need to go there,” just know that you won’t find your personal truth anywhere else. Whether self-sabotage is ruining our lives or just quietly making us miserable, a start on road to overcoming these self-defeating behaviors can be undertaken on our own. If we should get stuck along road, professional help through private therapists, clinics, and school or job counselors is generally available. Once underlying dynamics of our self-defeating behaviors are exposed and dealt with, it will be much easier to stop self-defeating behaviors in their tracks, before they have a chance to undermine us. Once we reintegrate all of our personal power back into our lives, a whole new vista of possibilities opens up before us. This is a deeply exhilarating experience that none of us should miss.
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