How Compatible Are You and Your Partner?

Written by Kim Olver

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The final way to meet one’s need for power is "power within" oneself. This is generally seen as a need for pride or competence. Those with a high power need who meet it through power within methods like to always do their best. They may seem to be perfectionistic but producing their best is very need satisfying to them.

In relationships, this power need accounts for workaholism, people who always need to control everything around them and a low degree of tolerance for imperfection in others. The power need has a big influence in interpersonal relationships.

The fourth need to discuss isrepparttar need for freedom. People with a high need for freedom are independent and like to do things their own way. High freedom need people generally don't like rules---particularly ones that don't make sense. They also value their time alone. They like to do what they want, when they want.

There is usually an inverse relationship betweenrepparttar 141948 love & belonging andrepparttar 141949 freedom needs. When a person has a high need for love & belonging, he or she typically has a lower need for freedom and vice versa. Of course, there are exceptions but typically there is an opposite relationship betweenrepparttar 141950 two.

The last of Choice Theory’s basic human needs is fun. Fun seems pretty straightforward but there are some subtleties to it that are necessary to understand. There are basically three kinds of fun. There isrepparttar 141951 loud, energetic kind of fun that people might get from physical activity and parties, for example. There isrepparttar 141952 quiet, relaxing kind of fun that might be enjoyed by fishing, lying in a hammock on a warm summer’s day or reading for pleasure. Then there is learning as fun.

Now, I’m not talking about when you learned algebra! For most of us that wasn’t fun but I am talking about learning something you are interested in that has useful application for you. For me,repparttar 141953 best example is when I learned how to downhill ski and made itrepparttar 141954 first time downrepparttar 141955 slope without falling and getting snow down my jacket, up my pant legs and various other places! It isrepparttar 141956 sheer joy of learning something that interests you. Everyone has various ways of meeting their fun needs and it is these differences that can drastically affect your satisfaction in your relationship.

It is not always true that in order for your relationship to succeed, you must have equal or almost equal need strengths in all five needs. For some needs, it is best when one of you is high and one of you is low in that need.

Go to and takerepparttar 141957 free assessment today. It’s onrepparttar 141958 “Free Stuff” page, with a link provided onrepparttar 141959 home page. See whatrepparttar 141960 assessment has to say. If you have some questions, join me in my chat room during one of my scheduled chats to discuss it, leave me a message on my blog (click onrepparttar 141961 “View our Web Journal” link onrepparttar 141962 home page) or checkrepparttar 141963 events calendar for upcoming workshops.

There is so much to learn about improvingrepparttar 141964 significant relationships in our lives. This provides you with one more piece torepparttar 141965 puzzle. Our workshop and weekend conferences give you many more ofrepparttar 141966 puzzle pieces to help you make sense of and work to improve your relationships. Don’t wait until it’s too late. Invest in your relationships today.

Kim Olver is a licensed professional counselor and a life/relationship coach. She helps people unleash their personal power and improve the quality of their relationships with the important people in their lives. For further information about Kim visit her website at or contact her at (708) 957-6047.

Don't Suffer Male Menopause Any Longer!

Written by Garry Munro

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How do you overcomerepparttar effects, wellrepparttar 141919 most important thing to do first is to openly discuss it with your doctor and your partner.

Don't "suffer" alone, this will only make matters worse, so accept it, discuss it and face life with a positive attitude.

Garry Munro is a successful consultant, speaker & coach in the area of self-development.

Based in Sydney Australia he runs his own business "Minds Alike" and works with small business owners and individuals assisting them to set & achieve their goals.

Visit his blog site at for more articles on success, business and self motivation.

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