Keep in mind, Law of Attraction is a powerful and obedient universal law. It doesn't know whether you want more of something or not; whether it is good for you or not or whether it is wanted by you or not-it simply gives you more of same.

If you are curious about what it is you are offering vibrationally in any area of your life, you need only look at results you are getting in that area-it's always a perfect match. When you observe what you are attracting and you like it, celebrate--and in your celebration, you'll attract more of same.

When you observe you are attracting something that you don't like, you can use Law of Attraction deliberately to put a stop to it and change it into something that you DO want. The easiest way to do this is to ask yourself, "So, what DO I want?" and then keep your mind focused on this new clarity of desire. Now you are becoming a deliberate offer-er about what you do want and Law of Attraction will respond accordingly. As you continue to practice this, you'll soon be able to check into this area of your life and see NEW results you are getting.

Because neither takers nor caretakers are taking care of themselves, they will each end up feeling angry, resentful, trapped, unappreciated, unseen, unloved, misunderstood, and/or unacknowledged.

I tell my clients that whenever they feel this way in a relationship, it is because they are expecting other person to give them what they are not giving to themselves. When we are not seeing, valuing, acknowledging, or understanding ourselves, and when we are not attending to our own wants and needs, we will always feel upset when others treat us just like we are treating ourselves.

Codependent relationships – relationships of two takers, two caretakers, or a taker and a caretaker – will always run into problems. Many people leave these relationships, only to discover same problems in their next relationships. Takers and caretakers can switch places in different relationships and over different issues, but problems remain same – anger, resentment, distance, lack of sexuality, boredom, feeling unloved and unloving.

There really is a way to heal this.

Relationships heal when individuals heal. When each partner does their inner work – for example practicing Inner Bonding process that we teach (see www.innerbonding.com for a free course) – their relationship system heals. When each person learns to take full personal responsibility for his or her own feelings of pain and joy, they stop pulling on each other and blaming each other. When each person learns to fill themselves with love and share that love with each other, instead of always trying to get love, relationship heals.

Learning how to take100% responsibility for your own feelings is one of essential ingredients in creating a healthy relationship. This means learning to be conscious of what you are feeling and being open to learning about what you are doing to create your own feelings, instead of being a victim and believing that others are causing your feelings. Your feelings come from how you treat yourself and others, from what you tell yourself and what you believe about yourself and others, rather than from others behavior. Blaming others for your feelings will always lead to major relationship problems.

Why not start today by taking your eyes off your partner and putting them squarely on yourself? In reality, you are only one you actually have control over. You are only one you can change.