Ask yourself, what means most to you? Wasting precious time being someone your not, or living your life true and clean? To me, it’s a no brainer, but to others who dislike themselves so much, this can be one of most daunting tasks ever.

Why is it so hard to be seen for who we really are?

When you’re taking on this false persona, you feel more secure because your natural persona, as you see it, is not worthy. You’ve clipped its beautiful wings and kept it in a cage so if it wanted to fly, it couldn’t, due to your own suppression.

The most painful thought imaginable is that of time wasted. Most of time, years can never be recouped. In addition, if change towards your natural personality is never achieved, your whole life just may be a lie.

Not only will you gain more respect from your family and peers, but more importantly, you will always respect yourself no matter where life may bring you. So make change, and don’t waste anymore life, it’s definitely not worth it

How would this look on your headstone? He lived his life as a lie, but what a great guy.

Don’t be that person. It’s never to late to make changes, no matter how difficult change is. Because being true to yourself as who you really are instead of what you think everyone wants you to be, is absolutely most self empowering life you could possibly lead.

Not only will you gain more respect from your family and peers, but more importantly, you will always respect yourself no matter where life may bring you. So make change, and don’t waste anymore life, it’s definitely not worth it.

--by Brian Maloney-ValuePrep.com Want to improve your personal values? Get high-quality-relationship advice for guys and gals from a 'Logical' standpoint. Visit Relationship Advice for Guys & Women **Attn Ezine editors / Site Owners** Feel free to reprint this article in its entirety in your ezine or on your website as long as you leave all links in place, do not modify content and include our resource box as listed above.

When appropriately analyzing your current mental condition, you need to set all pride aside and begin to delve into your past. False pride can mask what a more lucid-thinking individual could obviously see as painful. Therefore, a lucid and logical mindset is of utmost importance.

Identification of particular events that are painful and then indexing them in their level of importance, is also important in knowing to what degree certain memories are hindering your progression.

In indexing phase, one should identify and compare or look for memories that cast longest shadow.

When this is completed, arduous task of letting go must proceed. Ask yourself truthfully, is this memory worth keeping this close, or would letting it go to its grave make my life easier? This cost benefit analysis should be done with all toxic memories, in order to understand their role in suppressing your life.

Although letting go of a broken past is extremely helpful in ones future, it cannot be overstated that this process is just that, a process and cannot be done overnight. Working on these memories and coming to terms with them by not accepting them anymore, can take years. As each one diminishes from your memory, you will not only be able to feel backpack become lighter, but you will be able to start moving more freely into your future.

--by Brian Maloney-ValuePrep.com Want to improve your personal values? Get high-quality-relationship advice for guys and gals from a 'Logical' standpoint. Visit Relationship Advice **Attn Ezine editors / Site Owners** Feel free to reprint this article in its entirety in your ezine or on your website as long as you leave all links in place, do not modify content and include our resource box as listed above.

Brian Maloney is an online writer assisting others in understanding their personal values within their relationships. As site owner of the new ValuePrep.com, solid writing is what you can expect from him in the future along with his first book to be released in 2005/6.