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Suitable for Your Personality
For a goal to have a chance of success it should reflect your natural personality; always select a goal that you feel would not surprise others - although they may well be surprised at how easily you achieve it!
A Clear Idea
You have to know EXACTLY what it is that you want. It sounds obvious but an awful lot of people simply have never worked it out! Somebody might say: "I want to make something of myself." Well, good… but make what exactly? The subconscious - and that is part of you which will achieve success or otherwise - only works with uncomplicated and positive statements with no ambiguity or implication. After all, if you made a failure of yourself, that would comply with above goal, wouldn't it? 'Make a success' is not much better, either. One person's success simply doesn't 'work' for another. "I want to have my own business selling music CDs on internet," is a clear goal. So is: "I want to make xxxxxxxx money a year from my music website," as long as you state a figure that you know can be achieved. Make your goal specific and you have a far higher chance of success.
There are very many methods of improving self worth and confidence. The most important thing to recognise, probably, is that precisely nothing will happen if you don't put some input into plan. You can read best self help books in world and nothing will happen unless you have an action plan. You can listen to self help and personal development CDs until you know them off by heart, but result will be a big fat nothing if that is all you do.
If you want to get anywhere, you have to accept that it is YOU who must make change - nobody, absolutely nobody, can do it for you. Nothing changes if nothing changes...
Self hypnosis can be remarkably effective for reduction of stress and improvement in life generally. It is a specific skill and one which can easily be learned via one of many books on subject or via one of many free self hypnosis courses available on internet.
Though some people are wary of hypnosis and self hypnosis until they discover more about it, it's used on a daily basis by sportsmen and musicians, business people and artists, housewives, policemen, engineers, shop assistants... in fact it's used by millions of people from all walks of life all over globe!
Let's dispel a few of anxieties that some visitors might have... following 'rules' are applicable to all types of hypnosis:
- You cannot 'get stuck' - this is quite impossible - You do not become unconscious or go to sleep - You know what's happening at all times - You can exit state whenever you wish to - You cannot 'lose your mind' - It is not connected in any shape or form with occult - There is no such thing as a 'hypnotised feeling' - It is actually a totally natural state which we all go into several times a day - It is very similar to meditation or relaxation techniques - IT IS COMPLETELY SAFE!
Getting into a state of self-hypnosis is a specific skill and as with all skills, some people are better at it than others. It is fair to say, though, that almost everybody can benefit from learning how to use it. Among other things, you can help yourself to:
- Combat Stress - use it with routines above for a real power session! - Lose weight - Quit smoking - Improve sporting and other performance - Increase concentration and recall - Improve confidence and self-confidence - Work effectively with motivation issues
As mentioned earlier, there are very many books on subject of self hypnosis as well as free courses - but do be sure to get one that is written by a professional in field.
Motivational therapy, and personal confidence
Finally, an excellent way of developing your life in way you want it is to visit a motivational coach, hypnotherapist or NLP practitioner. Huge numbers of sporting personalities, stars of stage and screen, wildly successful business leaders and 'executive climbers', amongst others, have achieved their success via this route. Hypnotherapy and/or NLP can provide somewhat faster and more long-lasting results than coaching and often with fewer sessions.
If you decide to investigate this route, your local Yellow Pages is a good starting point; initial consultations are often at no charge, though you should make clear exactly why you are consulting.
Terence Watts is a successful therapist, lecturer and author of hypnotherapy and self-help books. He runs his own school in the UK and has conducted more than 24,000 sessions of hypnosis and hypnotherapy since 1989. http://www.eccellenti.com has a complete range of self help books and CDs, as well as several free information files. There is also a free self hypnosis course written by Terence.