Heed Your Confidence Voice

Written by Jim McCormick

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Feelings send us off in various directions just likerepparttar retrorockets. When they fire, we start to travel in a certain direction. When we identifyrepparttar 123977 feeling and its source, we haverepparttar 123978 opportunity to counter its effect if we choose. That's why it is so critical that we understand what's occurring. It may be that we don't want to counterrepparttar 123979 effect--that's okay, too. The difference is that now we're pilots who know what's taking place as opposed to pilots with rockets firing at random and no idea where we're headed. A feelings inventory is our control panel. Sometimes our retro-rockets may fire in a direction that's good. It helps to know that, too.

Infants have few fears. Duringrepparttar 123980 early days of life, we tune in to our confidence voice like a radio picking up a strong signal. We don't even need a vocabulary! The message is perfectly clear: Do it. Touch it. Put it in my mouth. Taste it. Twist it. Throw it onrepparttar 123981 ground. Never again will our confidence voice play such an undiluted role in our actions--fortunately. If we didn't "catch" certain fears from our society, we would likely die young.

Unfortunately, once those fears do come into our lives, we usually take on more than we need. We find we become more adept at hearing our fear voice than tuning in our fainter confidence voice.

I was confronted with my fear voice when I hadrepparttar 123982 chance to skydive torepparttar 123983 North Pole. After three hours inrepparttar 123984 air,repparttar 123985 Russian jet transport I was aboard had finally arrived overrepparttar 123986 polar cap. Along with my fellow team members, I approachedrepparttar 123987 exit ramp. Within two steps ofrepparttar 123988 edge, I realized I had a significant gear problem: I had forgotten to tighten my leg straps. If I went into free fall with my leg straps loose, on opening, my harness would shift upward. My chest strap would shift across my face, likely knocking off my goggles.

In that frigid Arctic air, with a single tear and a blink of my eyes, my eyelashes could freeze together. Should that occur in both eyes, I could no longer tell if I was heading for ice or water. I wouldn't be able to tell when I was getting nearrepparttar 123989 surface so I could make a safe landing. The worst case would be that my chest strap would shift above my head, no longer holding me in my harness. I would pitch forward and continue in free fall for what would become my final skydive.

I was faced with a very difficult decision and only a few moments in which to make it.

I had to decide between going back intorepparttar 123990 aircraft and giving myself a more thorough gear check or leavingrepparttar 123991 plane with my team. My team was my survival mechanism. Due torepparttar 123992 speed ofrepparttar 123993 aircraft, my only hope of landing with my team would be by exiting with my team.

I tightened my leg straps, knowing there could be as many as half a dozen other important elements of preparation I could have neglected inrepparttar 123994 excitement ofrepparttar 123995 moment andrepparttar 123996 bulk ofrepparttar 123997 unusual gear.

As I looked out that door and tried to make my decision, I heard from my fear voice and it said, "Jim get back inrepparttar 123998 plane! You're about to kill yourself."

Fortunately, my confidence voice was there, too. It had a deliberate, but quieter, tone: "Jim, you're well trained. You're well prepared and you don't want to miss this opportunity. If you leaverepparttar 123999 aircraft now, you'll haverepparttar 124000 experience of a lifetime!"

I had to listen to those two voices and decide if I was ready to takerepparttar 124001 next step. I did, andrepparttar 124002 rewards have been immeasurable. I found my true calling: as a result of that experience, I've been able to become a full-time professional speaker and help people understand how taking risks stepping outside their comfort zone-can lead to higher performance onrepparttar 124003 job and greater personal satisfaction. Immeasurable rewards await you, too, if you're willing to take some thoughtful and constructive risks!

Jim McCormick is a leading authority on risk and fear. He draws on his experiences as a World Record and North Pole skydiver to help people effectively deal with fear and take the critical risks that lead to improved personal and organizational performance. More information is available at http://www.RiskAndFear.com.

Sorting Emotional Laundry

Written by Sibyl McLendon

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Trouble atrepparttar door should be like a democratic household: everyone has to clean up their own stuff! If I spend all my time trying to clean up after everyone I come in contact with, I will never have time or energy for anything else. I certainly won't haverepparttar 123976 energy to take care of my own stuff. This doesn't mean that I am not supportive ofrepparttar 123977 others. It doesn't mean that I just turn my back on them. It does mean, to me, that I can be supportive without taking onrepparttar 123978 problems of others. It means that I recognize that I can't make anyone else do anything, and few people are looking for someone to try and control them anyway. I can love them without making their pain a part of me.

The Apaches have a thing called a "burden basket". It is a conical-shaped basket that is carried onrepparttar 123979 back. I have always loved that name: burden basket. I really don't want to carry other people's burdens around on my back. The next time that trouble comes to your door, take some time and sort it out. Don't add things to your burden basket that don't belong to you. Lighten your load!

Sibyl McLendon is a 1/2 Navajo Business Woman living in Arizona. She is the owner of Spirit Web Design http://www.spirit-webdesign.net. She has been designing sites for 3 years. Visit Spirit Web Design for useful information on website marketing.

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