Healthy Grief, Unhealthy Grief

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

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Frank was fine because Beth had not beenrepparttar source of his sense of self. Frank had a strong loving inner adult who was connected with a spiritual source of love and wisdom. This was his Source, not Beth. Frank was a person who took full responsibility for his own pain and joy. He had never made Beth responsible for his feelings or his wellbeing. Because he had never abandoned himself, he could miss Beth and grieve for her without feeling abandoned, lost, victimized and alone.

Gary, onrepparttar 134867 other hand, was not fine, no matter how much sadness he released, because Samantha had been his Source of love, his Higher Power. He had handed to herrepparttar 134868 job of defining his sense of self, so when she left, all he could feel was abandoned. Gary had handed his Inner Child – his feeling self – to Samantha. He had made Samantha responsible for his feelings, so when she left, he felt like an abandoned child. His Source of love had gone away.

Because Frank knew how to love himself, he knew how to love others. Within a couple of years, Frank was in another loving relationship.

Gary found another relationship within six months of losing Samantha, and six months after that was again alone. Until Gary decides to learn to take responsibility for his own feelings and needs, he will likely continue to lose relationship after relationship, and continue to be stuck in feeling like a victim ofrepparttar 134869 women in his life.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: or email her at Phone Sessions Available.

The Secret to a Prosperous Life, Online or Off - Part 3

Written by Mary Wilkey

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There is an old song called "You've Gotta Have Heart." That's what everything is all about, folks. A head with no heart is a dead head. There is another song called "Follow Your Heart." It's just another way of saying "followingrepparttar leading ofrepparttar 131482 Spirit." Go with your heart's desire.

If you're "all about business," do what your heart tells you, even if there appears to be little or no money in it atrepparttar 131483 beginning. If you do what you love,repparttar 131484 money will come. And what good is all repparttar 131485 money inrepparttar 131486 world anyway if you are miserable, because you haven't found your niche?

Onrepparttar 131487 other hand, I don't mean to imply that you should abandon good common sense and go off "half cocked." Listen to your heart, but do not neglect your responsibilities.

This is where sound judgment comes in. Faith is never logical. Andrepparttar 131488 heart rarely is. Somewhere between illogical faith and love on one side ofrepparttar 131489 scale and logical hope and aspirations onrepparttar 131490 other is that beautiful balance that will allow you to "have it all."

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