The fact remains, though, that broken relationships lead to broken hearts, and broken hearts hurt. Pain leads to fear, and fear leads to either a total giving up, or an attempt to half commit – with resulting unsatisfactory relationships all round.

So what’s antidote?

Two things, really. First, love yourself. If you can feel good about person you’re guaranteed to wake up with every day of your life, no one can hurt you, because that’s your inner strength. It wouldn’t matter how many times someone told Arnold Schwarzenegger he was a weakling, would it? He would always know that wasn’t true.

Secondly, get clear, really clear, about what you want. And then be honest about that. Do you really want to be with someone with young children? Do you mind if lovely person you’ve just met has an almost zero libido? Or an insatiable one?

Also be flexible with yourself about this. Your wants and needs are going to change. They won’t be same three months after end of a relationship as they will be when three years have elapsed. So you have to learn to listen to your inner self, and not only hear it, but trust it and act on its advice!

What this amounts to actually reduces to an amazing and simple formula for finding and keeping true love. Want to know what it is?

Get to know, like and love person you spend every day with. (For full details of who that is, check your nearest mirror!)

That’s it! That way, you’ll have bundles of love to give away, you’ll be a joy to be around, (which makes you irresistibly attractive), and during those times when you find yourself alone, you’ll be delighted to have your company for a while.

After all, who wouldn’t?

You may have decided you wanted to become rich because:

- You are tired of being broke and working at a dead end job that gives you no personal satisfaction.

- Your parents are aging and you want to be able to help them financially when time comes for increased medical care

- You saw how your parents struggled financially to survive and want to create a different future for yourself

By knowing your “Why” you would have been more committed to your goal and would have considered impact taking a trip to Europe would have on your long-term plan.

You would not have sacrificed long-term gain for immediate pleasure.

Robert Kiyosaki, one of my favorite writers and author of, “Retire Young, Retire Rich,” shared a personal story about why he decided to commit to creating a better life for himself.

He knew what had to be done and how to make it happen, but it was not until he was able to crystallize reasons why he wanted to create wealth, that he actually committed to taking action necessary.

He quoted old adage, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way,” and discovered that once he knew what his will was; he was able to find way.

Before pursuing a goal, determine why you want to achieve it. What will it mean for you to realize your dream? Once you have determined your “Why” finding your “How” will be a lot easier and your commitment to your goal will be stronger.

Until next time, dream big dreams and know that you can make them reality. It’s all up to you.