We will not even open to this Source until our deep desire is to take loving care of ourselves. As long as we believe it is someone else’s job to fill us up, or that we will get filled up from work, money, food and so on, we will not take loving action we need to take in our own behalf to take care of our Inner Child and fill ourselves with love.

The first thing I did with Hannah was to help her create, in her imagination, a spiritual source for her to turn to. When I asked her to do this, she immediately imagined her grandfather whom she had dearly loved as a child and who had died when she was five. She said she had often felt her grandfather around her, but had never thought to turn to him for help. Now, as she imagined him holding her and loving her, she began to cry with joy of feeling his love for her.

"Hannah, while he is holding you, imagine child part of you that wants to overeat. Imagine that you are holding her while your grandfather is holding you. Ask her how you are treating her that causes her to feel so empty and alone."

Little Hannah: "The thing you ALWAYS do that I just hate is you just go along with everything that Roger wants. What he wants and needs and feels is always more important to you than I am. You don’t speak up for me. Every since we got married, it’s like Roger is supposed to make me happy instead of you making me happy. I need you to make me happy by taking care of me instead of taking care of Roger so that Roger will love us. I need you to love me." (This did not come out all at once - this is a summary of what Inner Child eventually said to adult Hannah).

As Hannah learned to turn to her grandfather for love and guidance and started to take care of herself instead of giving herself up to Roger, her binge eating gradually diminished.

We know what extroverts enjoy because America is set up for their pleasure. Extroverts are vast 70% majority in our culture. For them and because of them we have huge food courts in huge shopping malls, noisy computer games with stun guns , Disneyland, athletic stadiums, neon signs, frat parties, spring break in Ft. Lauderdale, professional conventions, public award ceremonies, cell phones, wrap around sound and so much more!

If you’re an introvert, this list makes your head spin. The truth is, those things sound more like a life sentence than a way to spend some spare time.

Do you think there’s something wrong with you because you don’t squeal with pleasure at opportunity of joining belly flop contestants on top deck of a Carnival Cruise? Don’t apologize! You’re an introvert.

Introversion is a legitimate personality type. It’s a proven fact now. Studies show that extroverted babies move toward external stimuli such as bright lights, noise and people. Baby introverts move from away from them.

So what’s fun for introverts? I bet you’re ashamed to admit it. You love a walk in park, reading a good book by fire, dangling your feet off pier for a few hours (fishing pole optional), working in garden and puttering around house. Oh, and don’t forget playing with your fur companion or travel. Those are high on our list as well.

The point is, people will stop thinking we’re nerds (extroverts who “failed”) when we stop apologizing for ourselves. Let’s raise some consciousness. They can have fun their way, but we get to have it our way, too. Anyone for a hot game of Scrabble tonight? No apologies!