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·Be aware that it is dangerous to leave your beverages unattended if you are in company of persons you do not know and trust well whether male or female.
Trust voice of your core if you are getting a message that someone is being too controlling. ·Be aware that it is not safe to be in a position that causes you to be dependent upon another person. Carry a well-charged cell phone and always know whom you can call in a jam.
·When communicating your limits and boundaries speak from core. Speak clearly in short concise statements. Polite statements may be ignored. Make it clear that your decision is not up for discussion.
·Be aware that many victims will never share their painful secret with those who might expect that they would. Reassure people in your life care about that they can come to you if unfortunate happens and someone assaults them. Children and other loved ones should be assured that you will not blame them and they will not be in trouble if they share “secrets” with you. Take time to educate yourself about sexual assault and effects on victims, you may need it sooner than you realize.
·Be aware that many victims will never share their painful secret with those who might expect that they would. Right now is time to talk to your loved ones who will be attending college. Maintain ongoing communication with young men as well as young women about safe behavior. Encourage young men to educate themselves about consent and remind them to follow their intuition and not be lured into supporting jokes or situations in which someone may be assaulted.
These points of awareness may help to reduce your risk of sexual assault but may not entirely prevent this violent crime from occurring. It is important to keep in mind that offender is always to blame and that sexual assault is never fault of survivor. No one asks or deserves to be sexually assaulted. If unfortunate does happen, be aware that help is available.
Tonya Genison Prince is a personal coach and editor of two newsletters; "Arise" for people of faith who have experienced sexual assault, and "Sing" provides knowledge to their wise counsel. With 10 years experience as a family violence advocate and counselor; she is also a speaker/trainer for persons of faith on how to minister to survivors of sexual assault. For subscription, booking, consultation or product information contact tonyaprince@princegeorges.com