It's amazing; one harsh word spoken brings another harsh word. One soft word spoken brings another soft word. For these two personalities to get along in harmony, one will need to develop a mindset of a peacemaker. There will be no harmony until one does so, just a lot of bickering.

Getting To The Top!

The simplest illustration of making this work is that of a salesman and his customer. Every salesman is doing his best to create feelings of happiness and trust in another person. He won't be able to do that by rubbing where there's already a rash.

And, that's where problem is in most cases. We try to "rub another person's rash". They need honey not vinegar. So, we try to achieve our "happiness" by causing others to do what we want; instead of giving them what they want.

It just seems normal to get what we want by force, power, position, authority, etc. All we end up with most times is a can of worms. In heat of battle, it seems backwards to do otherwise.

So, we put on boxing gloves and come out swinging. The salesman by contrast, if he has any training at all, will come out with his silver lined tongue all prepared to bathe us in honey and promise us whatever will give us our hearts desire.

Now think about it. If sale is made, who won? They both did. Who got happy? They both did. Who got what they wanted? They both did. Who laughed all way to bank? They both did.

Now just imagine how you could persuade your teenager to clean his room by using salesman strategy. The point is; we have within us power to attract everything we want or, repel it into bottomless pit.

When we get what we desire, we get happy. When we give others something that they feel will make them happy, then happiness comes back to us in waves.

So, what comes first is sharing of something good and desirable with someone else. Then, something good and desirable that we seek will come back to us.

An Ace Up His Sleeve!

This type of salesman strategy is difficult to adopt. The salesman says customer is always right. The salesman says there is something that customer wants and, I have to find a way to give it to him and then I will get what I want.

Think about this: If you find that you are offended when someone yells at you or speaks in a harsh way, you can be sure that someone else is offended by it also, even if it is your five year old son.

Everyone has emotions that need to be stroked. To get what we want we find a way to give them what they want. That's not to say we let them do whatever they want. Not even a salesman can do that. There will be some things about product that can't be compromised. But, that doesn't stop a sale from being made.

A good persuader will find a way to give other person what they want and at same time give themselves what is desirable. If you like being complimented, then it is safe to believe others will like it also.

What Goes Around Comes Around!

So, can happiness be attracted? Can unhappiness be attracted? The answer to both questions is yes. Happiness is attracted by sharing happiness with others. Unhappiness is attracted by spreading trouble, domineering and manipulative attitudes, and imposing selfish desires with no concern of returning something of value to other person. It's the, "all about me attitude".

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He was one of our greatest leaders, Abraham Lincoln.

Despite what many people think, success is much more about hard work, knowledge, resourcefulness, and perseverance than anything else. People who experience success in their lives know what they want and they go after it with passion, conviction, and hard work. In fact, someone once said, The only place you find success before work is in dictionary. In other words, if you want to be successful, you are going to have to work for it. What is success and how do you achieve it? Success can be defined as progressive realization of a predetermined, worthwhile goal or dream. This definition of success underlies importance of having goals. You can’t achieve success without developing goals. Goals give life meaning. As humans, we are designed for achievement and accomplishment. H.L. Hunt, who was at one time richest man in world, said that he had discovered three steps that would lead to success. 1). Decide what you really want out of life. 2). Develop a plan of action for achieving it. 3). Act, with great enthusiasm.

When you review life history of Abraham Lincoln, you can see a similar pattern. He knew what he wanted, he developed a plan, and acted with enthusiasm and persistence. In end, he accomplished a great deal and left world in better shape than he found it. If we all could follow our vision, and work with purpose, just think how different world could be. Now it is time to for you to take lead and become a success in your own time.

***This article adapted from Life Strategy 101: How to live by vision, work with purpose, and achieve more success by Michelle L. Casto

Michelle L. Casto is Owner of Get Smart! and is a Whole Life Coach who resides in Corpus Christi, Texas. She is the author of the Get Smart! LearningBook Series, books on romantic relationships, career development, and stress management. Her coaching practice is Brightlight Coaching, she helps people come up with bright ideas for their lives and empowers them to freely shine their bright light to the world. Visit virtually: www.getsmartseries.com and www.brightlightcoach.com