HOW TO MAKE YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE

Written by Dr. Wayne Dyer


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Family Circle: And how do you do all that?

Dyer: You quiet your mind. On average, a person has 60,000 separate thoughts a day. We're thinking too much! As an ancient proverb says, "It'srepparttar silence betweenrepparttar 128883 notes that makesrepparttar 128884 music." So get quiet. Meditate; go for a walk; listen torepparttar 128885 birds,repparttar 128886 ocean. Breathe inrepparttar 128887 fresh air and allow your mind to let go.

Family Circle: can just hear workaholics saying they don't haverepparttar 128888 time to do that.

Dyer: If you don't take time for being healthy, you'll eventually have to make time for being sick. You can meditate for two minutes at a red light. Just close your eyes, take a deep breath, and clear your mind. The person behind you will let you know when your two minutes are up!

Family Circle: What arerepparttar 128889 signs of inner peace?

Dyer: People who have a sense of peace tend to smile, feel compassion, and enjoyrepparttar 128890 moment. They lose interest in conflict, and they don't worry!

Family Circle: You often say, "Stop worrying because there's nothing to worry about." How can that be?

Dyer: It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there's nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.

Family Circle: Sorepparttar 128891 next time you're tossing and turning in bed . . . ?

Dyer: My teacher in India always said, "First think of God, whatever God means to you. Think ofrepparttar 128892 universal force that allows an acorn to turn into an oak tree or a blossom to become an orange." The moment you bring spiritual energy torepparttar 128893 present, worry and anguish dissolve.

Family Circle: Other than yourself, do you know anyone who has mastered this?

Dyer: I don't know that I have! I've got eight kids and I struggle withrepparttar 128894 same things most people do. I've dealt with marital problems and addictions. What I've learned is to remind myself that all I have is today. That helps me shift my attention to what's good and right.

Family Circle: You always say that forgiveness is a dramatic way to transform a life. Forgiving your father for abandoning his family was a turning point for you.

Dyer: After he died, I went to my father's grave and told him, I don't know what motivated you to run your life as you did, but I forgive you. Afterward I felt a deep sense of relief and peace. Forgiveness is transforming. I userepparttar 128895 metaphor ofrepparttar 128896 snake bite. It is notrepparttar 128897 bit that kills you; it'srepparttar 128898 venom. When you hold a grudge,repparttar 128899 poisons of anger and blame destroy you. Your heart weakens, your blood pressure rises, you get ulcers. It wrecks your health, makes you miserable.

Family Circle: And when you forgive . . .

Dyer: . . . miracles begin to appear in your life because forgiveness heals. It'srepparttar 128900 core of every great spiritual teaching - from Jesus and Buddha to Gandhi and Mother Teresa.

Family Circle: You also recommendrepparttar 128901 art of detachment, calling it "one of life's great lessons." What do you mean?

Dyer: I mean detach fromrepparttar 128902 opinions of others; fromrepparttar 128903 habit of judging or controlling others; fromrepparttar 128904 past; fromrepparttar 128905 need to be right and to win; from an obsession with material things. Follow your passion in life, but detach fromrepparttar 128906 outcome and allowrepparttar 128907 universe to handlerepparttar 128908 details.

Family Circle: So, as we usher in 2003, what would you say isrepparttar 128909 key to achieving happiness?

Dyer: When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place onrepparttar 128910 floor. It's to enjoy each step alongrepparttar 128911 way. That's what life is. There's no way to happiness. Happiness isrepparttar 128912 way. It's what you bring to life.

*Excerpted from Family Circle/January 14, 2003 issue

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, affectionately called the "father of motivation" by his fans, is one of the most widely known and respected people in the field of self-empowerment.

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Valuing Love

Written by Dr. Nathaniel Branden


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Considerrepparttar case of romantic love. When two adults with significant spiritual and psychological affinities encounter each other, and if they have evolved to a decent level of maturity -- if they are beyondrepparttar 128881 level of merely struggling to make their relationship "work" -- then romantic love can become a pathway, not only to sexual and emotional happiness but also to higher reaches of human growth. It can become a context for a continuing encounter withrepparttar 128882 self, throughrepparttar 128883 process of interaction with another self. Two consciousnesses, each dedicated to personal evolution, can provide an extraordinary stimulus and challenge to each other.

But such a possibility presupposes self-esteem. The first love affair we must consummate successfully is with ourselves; only then are we ready for a relationship with another. A person who feels unworthy and unlovable is not ready for romantic love.

Of course, there are other kinds of love besides romantic love. What I feel for my grandchildren is a different kind of love. What it has in common with romantic love, however, is that I see in my grandchildren values and traits that touch my heart. But it would be a corruption of language to say that I "love" my grandchildrenrepparttar 128884 same as I "love" children whom I do not even know. Whatever my feelings for other children,repparttar 128885 experience is entirely different.

Apart from what I feel for my wife, Devers -- who isrepparttar 128886 highest value in my life -- writing is my paramount passion. What this means, practically, is that a good deal of my time and energy is devoted to writing. This has to do with living one's values, not simply professing them. You ask, "How do I bring love into my life?" My answer is that I focus day after day principally on what I care most about in this world -- on what I most respect and admire. That is what I give my time and attention to.

Since my highest priorities are my marriage and my work, I giverepparttar 128887 greatest part of my time and energy to them. With regard to my wife, I frequently communicate to her my awareness of allrepparttar 128888 traits and characteristics in her that I so much love, respect, appreciate, and admire.

We all want to be seen, understood, appreciated. I call thisrepparttar 128889 need forrepparttar 128890 experience of psychological visibility. I strive to make my wife feel visible to me.

I also spend a great deal of time thinking aboutrepparttar 128891 things I love. I am keenly aware of how much there is in life to appreciate and enjoy. I dwell on that every day. I do not take anything good in my life for granted.

I am always aware of our mortality. I know that if I love someone,repparttar 128892 time to express it is today. If I value something,repparttar 128893 time to honor it is today.

Dr. Nathaniel Branden Phd, is the author of over 20 books, including "The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" & "The Art of Living Consciously. Click here for more information about Dr. Nathaniel Branden


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