Written by Linda Reeves

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with dignity. To you men, stand up, be a respectable man and tells us what is wrong and can or can it not be fixed, don’t clam up on us, we as women need an explanation, some sort of reasoning for what happened to let go and move on. Women, crying will make you feel better, but doubtful that it will change how anyone feels atrepparttar moment and most of all do not call them constantly begging them to come back. As cliché’ as it sounds “If you love something, set it free, if it comes back it is yours forever”. Be honest about what went wrong and why you feelrepparttar 132139 need to break away. A great as it may seem, whatever mistakesrepparttar 132140 other person made with you cannot and will not be realized or corrected if they are unaware of their actions. Myself, I have a very strong personality and tend to be somewhat “bossy” and over bearing at times, and had I not been told that I would have continued to sabotage every relationship by trying to control everything about it. I now know that I have to share that control and allowrepparttar 132141 man to berepparttar 132142 man, we are sharing a life together and to survive in a relationship one has to let go of “I, my, me, mine” and look at things from a “us, we, our, both” perspective.

Onrepparttar 132143 flip side, things happen that are sometimes beyond one’s control that takes them away from you, again discussion isrepparttar 132144 key. In such case, any problems or feelings can be clarified and you can resolve any impending issues. Knowing that whatever occurred can be resolved amicably between both parties, andrepparttar 132145 willingness to forgive and work towards talking more and being more open tells you to “Hold Em”.

No amount of words will give yourepparttar 132146 insight to makerepparttar 132147 decision to “Hold Em” or “Fold Em”, that choice is made by knowing what you want out of life and your relationships. No one can answer those questions for you, it is up to you to look insiderepparttar 132148 box as well as outsiderepparttar 132149 box and choose whichever is best for you and your future. Never ever, walk away before giving a relationship a chance, regret isrepparttar 132150 worst of all emotions, resolve to live your life inrepparttar 132151 “I Have, I Did, I Will” mode and notrepparttar 132152 “Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda” , your life will be much richer and fulfilling inrepparttar 132153 end.

Dealrepparttar 132154 Cards…….Let them fall as they may.

Linda Reeves is a 47 year old advice columnist who writes for Cupids Blackbook. She Lives in the American midwest.

Examining Your Own Attitudes About Age

Written by Virginia Bola, PsyD

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The human brain is amazing and inspiring. Its intricacy and ability set us apart fromrepparttar other creatures of our planet. It hasrepparttar 132137 capability to keep functioning, and growing, throughout our life cycle. Only when we choose to ignore it, or fail to use it, does it slip into dormancy and slowly wither. Nurture your mind as you did your children. When they thought they would "never get it" at school, you encouraged them and stuck with them until they mastered their assignments. Relish new mental challenges and give yourself that same patient coaching. You may need to read technical information several times before you really understand it. Spend free hours exploring your computer and researching what it does and how it can best work for you. Work on crossword puzzles and word games to maintain your memory and expand your vocabulary. Learn about a new subject which has always interested you but which you never had time to thoroughly explore: history, astronomy, holistic health, genealogy, horse race handicapping, geography, anything that catches your fancy. The goal is notrepparttar 132138 subject you study butrepparttar 132139 mental exercise it affords which will, in turn, improve your mood, providerepparttar 132140 daily excitement of new discoveries, and allow you to feel productive and valuable to your prime audience: yourself.

3. "It's time to start acting my age."

What does that mean? Shall we allow our age to be determined by an arbitrary, man-made calendar or by how we feel? Some of us seem "old" by fifty. We give up trying new things, we slow down our activity, we stop thinking creatively. Many of us at sixty or seventy feel as we have always done and are shocked when we look closely in a mirror and see that we have changed. How could our appearance be so different when we still see ourselves as young and vibrant as ever? If we can actrepparttar 132141 age we feel, calendar age no longer matters. If we love to dance, should we stop because of a date on a calendar? If we like to work, should we be forced to retire when we have so much to offer? If we feel at our best in shorter skirts and high heels, must we start changing our wardrobe to presentrepparttar 132142 image of a dowager? If we like to play rough and tumble sports, should we move torepparttar 132143 sidelines and letrepparttar 132144 "young set" take over? Are we doomed to wear shawls and scarves and sensible shoes when we don't feel any more "sensible" that we did forrepparttar 132145 past 50 years? No way! Let our inner attitude shine in public as brightly as it burns within our minds.

Human beings have few limitations. The limits that exist are often self-imposed. A positive attitude about yourself, your refusal to allowrepparttar 132146 calendar to stifle your physical and mental reach, and frequent self-examination ofrepparttar 132147 myths of aging to which you may be falling prey, can transformrepparttar 132148 destructive social concept of aging into bright new opportunities for change, growth, and fulfillment.

Virginia Bola is a licensed clinical psychologist with deep interests in Social Psychology and politics. She has performed therapeutic services for more than 20 years and has studied the effects of cultural forces and employment on the individual. The author of an interactive workbook, The Wolf at the Door: An Unemployment Survival Manual, and a monthly ezine, The Worker's Edge, she can be reached at http://www.drvirginiabola.blogspot.com

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