If you find he doesn't do it for you, cut him loose. But if you find that every guy who shows genuine interest (or wants to take things to next level) doesn't do it for you, if you find yourself continually attracted to unavailable (emotionally or otherwise) men who love you and leave you, ask yourself if you--yes, you!--are a commitmentphobe.

If answer is yes, figure out what scares you about commitment. Work your way through it. Before long, you'll find yourself attracted to better men.

And in time, you'll find yourself waking up every morning next to man with whom you enjoy a fun, loving, and commited relationship. All former struggle, strain, and strife will be long forgotten.

Terry Hernon MacDonald is author of "How to Attract and Marry Man of Your Dreams." Visit her website at http://www.marrysmart.com Check out her blog at http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com