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The ability for an intimate relationship and an open and fair dispute forms core for a co-operation within larger circles of people. The perspective on social level expands from cell of pair relationship or family to social orders, which furthers social well-being of all.
Through your abilities, your engagement or your love, you strengthen your neighbourhood, your job or organization, which you have joined. You work together on goals, which serve preservation of life and common whole.
If true love means to you, that other should mother and protect you, you will on this level look for a community that might fulfil your needs. This even more so if a couple relationships has not satisfied you. The community becomes a mother substitute.
Instead of synergy you experience fight around attention, lack of respect for other community members, hidden power struggles, and defence of privileges
When you reach level of ethics or principles will you be able to differentiate different levels with their options and challenges. This level enables you to distance yourself from yourself.
In practice this means, that you can observe, like a neutral observer how you have handled options and challenges of love on different levels of development, and what kind of thought forms and behaviour may even today hinder you to give and receive true love. As you are not completely identified with your own thoughts and responses anymore, you can choose how you may best overcome obstacles.
If your partner for instance would like more room for himself, you will not simply react with fears of loss and trying to hold partner, but you observe responses in you and you use your competence to develop another way of dealing with such situations. With consciousness of fifth level, you attain freedom to direct your thoughts and behaviour in such a way that it leads to your chosen goals.
If you integrate all that you have learned on all levels, you become an embodiment of true love that spreads to all people. This feeling of universal love is all-encompassing feeling of compassion that Buddha spoke about. It is wish to ease suffering of people helping them to understand transitory nature of this world
Each level has its own qualities and challenges, and it will take time to come to terms with them.
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