And when gifted adults seek career guidance, they must filter feedback they receive from well-meaning advisors who are not familiar with their situation.

"Whoa! You're trying to be a jack-of-all trades and you'll end up a master of none."

"Wow! I've never seen anyone move as fast as you do. I'm sure you're going to be a success."

"You need to slow down."

"Focus on one thing at a time."

"I can't understand -- you need to focus."

"Boy, you're catching on fast! You must be well-suited to this field."

If you're gifted, you probably already have some idea that you're "different." Read a few books and articles. Browse websites. Understanding how you operate can help you avoid, "Why is this happening" questions and reach success on your own terms.

At first sign of discontent, begin some reality-testing. Ask at least six people (the Goodwin Rule of Six) how they feel. Word your questions carefully: "I love it here. What do you think?" Newcomers can find themselves labeled M for "malcontent," even when they ask most innocent questions.

You may need only a quick fix. I've seen people blossom when they transfer to a new department or move six blocks away. But you may have identified a deeper discontent.

Once you've identified source, find a friend you trust. Tell that friend, "If I tell you I'm tempted to move again, remind me why I was miserable here."

Most friends -- along with many professional advisors -- are reluctant to become wet blankets who smother your dreams. Yet if you're trying to avoid repeating a mistake, a large bucket of ice water may save you from drowning when you dive into your next pond.