How could Sherry find her way out of this stuck place?

Before she could change it, she needed to become aware of it rather than continue to operate on automatic pilot. We can’t change something that we don’t know we are doing. Sherry needed to become aware of both inner voices - adolescent bossy, controlling voice of her father, and younger voice of her resistant child. She needed to choose to be controlling and resistant - rather than doing it unconsciously - before she could have other chooses available to her.

"But why would I choose this?" she asked.

"Good question! Yet this is what you are choosing every day. But until you are aware of choosing this, you can’t choose anything else. How can you change it if you are doing it unconsciously? Just keep doing what you are doing, but now do it consciously. Watch yourself making this choice."

Sherry agreed to try this for a week. She was ecstatic at our next session. "I actually got apartment cleaned!"

"That’s great! Now I want you to start of become aware of what you want to do and what is really in your highest good, rather than what you think you have to do. The challenge here is for you to develop a loving Adult part of you that is neither controlling nor resistant, but concerned with taking loving action that supports your highest good. This will take time and practice, but when you are thinking of what is really loving to yourself rather than controlling and resisting being controlled, you will be unstuck in all areas of your life."

Sherry did practice and found that more she thought about what was in her highest good and took loving action for herself, easier it became to get things done.

In course of our work together, Sherry learned to develop a connection with a personal source of spiritual guidance to help her understand what was in her highest good and to follow through with loving action. She found that more she stayed connected with her spiritual guidance, more powerful she felt within. When controlling and resistant parts of her were no longer in charge of her choices, procrastination became a thing of past.

Today’s story: The family was sitting around talking about how Uncle Introvert is 70 years old. Once again, they describe him as a strange, strange bird.

My husband, however, compares him to a rare exotic fish that lives in deepest ocean. He says, “You know, ones you can only get to with a submersible. The ones that have beautiful brilliant neon colors that flash and glow in dark – but if you bring them to surface, their stomachs come out their mouths.” Something about that imagery struck me as hilarious. He did a good job of helping me understand how bizarre introverts appear to rest of world.

I can’t count number of times pressure of their world has brought my stomach to my mouth.