Getting To Good: Your Spontaneous Woo Quotient

Written by Maya Talisman Frost


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Not surprisingly, this golden mean became a popular idea, especially amongrepparttar rich. It was just what they wanted to hear! Remember thatrepparttar 130397 majority of Aristotle's students were wealthy--who else hadrepparttar 130398 time to study philosophy all day? Aristotle himself ended up being handsomely paid--especially for a philosopher!

Aristotle had his work cut out for him trying to remain moral while becoming wealthy. His most famous student,repparttar 130399 classic overachiever Alexanderrepparttar 130400 Great, clearly never gotrepparttar 130401 point about moderation. Aristotle's emphasis onrepparttar 130402 golden mean got lost in allrepparttar 130403 excitement about pursuing whatever you like.

Hmmmm. Sounds a lot like modern life, doesn't it?

What kind of life would Aristotle suggest we live inrepparttar 130404 midst of allrepparttar 130405 stuff ofrepparttar 130406 21st century? What does moderation mean now?

Wealthy people are not necessarily more or less moral than anyone else, but they ARE tested more thanrepparttar 130407 rest of us. They haverepparttar 130408 means to live an excessive lifestyle if they choose to do so. If you live large, your morality--or lack thereof--is magnified forrepparttar 130409 world to see. Add a dash of celebrity and a stint on TV, and you start serving as some sort of example.

This is where we get confused between "a good life" and "the good life".

We're fascinated byrepparttar 130410 choices people make when they haverepparttar 130411 ability to live any way they choose. We read magazines featuring photographs of celebrities in their homes. We watch television shows that give us tours ofrepparttar 130412 properties owned by billionaires. We're both fascinated and repelled by reality shows that offer riches to those who manipulate others.

Why? It's because we're curious aboutrepparttar 130413 choices made, and we wonder what we would do givenrepparttar 130414 same set of circumstances.

Seeingrepparttar 130415 homes,repparttar 130416 furnishings, andrepparttar 130417 cars gives us an idea of what is valued byrepparttar 130418 individual. We watch because we wonder what choices we would make if we hadrepparttar 130419 same bank account. Would we be extravagant? Would we live simply? Would we be tacky or tasteful? Would we horrifyrepparttar 130420 neighbors or build a better community? Would our children be kind, compassionate, and generous, or would they be self-centered brats with a huge sense of entitlement?

Would we be like Sting--or Ozzy Osbourne? Would we have daughters like Sofia Coppola--or Paris Hilton?

Most of us have the, uh, good fortune of not being tempted to live without limits. Without being fully tested, we don't really know how we'd fare in a world of big money and bigger visibility.

The wonderful thing about living a good life is that it is possible to do it at any economic level. You can live a good life in poverty or wealth. Though we tend to think it's a lot easier to be an excellent human when we have sufficient funds inrepparttar 130421 bank, both versions--rich and poor--come with plenty of challenges.

It's tempting to put off becoming your best self until you believe you haverepparttar 130422 financial support to do it. "I'll be generous once I get torepparttar 130423 top," you think. "I'll be kinder when I'm not so stressed." "I'll give back torepparttar 130424 community when I retire."

There's no dollar amount that precludes or guarantees a good life, and there's no reason to postpone your own greatness. You may winrepparttar 130425 lottery tomorrow, or you may lose everything. Despite any dramatic shifts in your personal fortune, you can live a good life today.

Note and relish your own spontaneous woos on a daily basis, and look for ways to increase and deepen them. Think, be happy, and share that wealth in words, wit, and warmth.

The good life never felt so good.



Maya Talisman Frost is a mind masseuse. Her work has inspired thinkers in over 70 countries around the world. She serves up a satisfying blend of clarity, comfort and comic relief in her free weekly ezine, the Friday Mind Massage. To subscribe, visit http://www.massageyourmind.com.


Emotional Intelligence Brings Results

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Personal & Professional Development Coach


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Emotional Intelligence teaches you how. These are all competencies that can be learned.

LEARNING EQ

I read on someone’s websiterepparttar other day that EQ is hard to learn. Onrepparttar 130394 contrary, I find most clients pick it up quickly because it’s such a relief. “No one ever explained that to me,”they say, or “Now I get it.” These competencies are things we can always improve throughout our lifetime, however most people see immediate positive results. The point is to setrepparttar 130395 train onrepparttar 130396 tracks so it can start rolling.

EQ is such a good system, Lulwa, a client in Abu Dhabi tookrepparttar 130397 program onrepparttar 130398 Internet, with interaction by phone, instant message and email and said, after just 3 months: [quote] Since I started learning emotional intelligence, I have noticedrepparttar 130399 following positive changes:

1.I am more patient in dealing with angry people. 2.The ability to empathize with others helps in being able to receive love from others 3.I get in less fights in conversations 4.It is easier for me to solve problems

Lulwa, who gave me permission to quote her, was getting benefits in her life after just a few weeks. Undoubtedly she will continue improving because she hasrepparttar 130400 foundation in place and is getting rewards. Why would you stop doing something that makes it easier for you to solve problems? Once you’ve learned empathy, you can’t forget it.

Colleen Sibeijn, who took The EQ Foundation Course© ( http://www.webstrategies.cc/EQcourse.htm ), weekly interactive lessons onrepparttar 130401 internet for three monts, also got quick and lasting results. “I didrepparttar 130402 course last year and have become so much more in tune with my emotions and of those around me,” she said. “I am more in control of them and my family and friends have noticed.”

BENEFITS

So benefits are rapid and long-lasting because they’re self-perpetuating. Taking our four competencies again,

·CREATIVITY: Picasso was creative, but if it were something you ‘have’ one day forever, he wouldn’t have had a blue period and a cubism period. ·RESILIENCE: Life can throw us a curve that requires a new level of resilience, but once you know how to be resilient, you haverepparttar 130403 building blocks. ·INTENTIONALITY: As you continue to apply Intentionality torepparttar 130404 projects and relationships in your life, your ability at this will improve. ·AUTHENTICITY: Your ability to be authentic will be tested daily, because it takes self-discipline. You can constantly flex this muscle once you know where it is. Emotional Intelligence teaches yourepparttar 130405 skills for making your life work better. It can be learned and most people see results immediately. Now that you know what it is, why not consider increasing yours?

The best method is to take a course and do some reading, and then to have some coaching by a certified Emotional Intelligence coach. EQ involves social and emotional skills, so you don’t really learn them until you put them into practice and get expert feedback. You can report back to your coach about how you handled something and learn what would’ve worked better, and you can also work directly with your coach on skills asrepparttar 130406 need occurs inrepparttar 130407 coaching conversation.

There’s no downside, andrepparttar 130408 upside is very helpful.

©Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach, http://www.susandunn.cc . Coaching, distance learning, and ebooks around emotional intelligence for your continued personal and professional development. I train and certify EQ coaches. Get in this field, dubbed “white hot” by the press, now, before it’s crowded, and offer your clients something of real value. Start tomorrow, no residence requirement. Mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for free ezine.


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