Every time someone says how bad things are, I’m tempted to ask, “Well, how are YOU doing in midst of such?” Indeed, world conditions could certainly be a lot better. However, students of history know that they have certainly been a lot worse. Additionally, a person that knows much about Civil War era knows horrible condition of our country during that period.

So, all things considered, when we drive fine automobiles, eat well, live in nice homes and wear best of clothes; it seems somewhat incongruous to talk of how bad things are.

Secondly, to avoid curmudgeons, refuse to engage in self-pity. The P.L.O.M. (poor little old me) disposition is a sure sign that one needs an attitudinal checkup. At onset, treatment might involve visiting a children’s hospital, a burn ward or a cancer facility.

Too often we don’t take time to truly count our blessings; and become somewhat like little old lady (curmudgeon) who said she always felt bad, even on days when she felt good, for fear she would feel worse tomorrow. Being thankful for today is strong vaccine when it comes to treating self-pity and hardening of attitudes that is evident in curmudgeons.

BARBER-OSOPHY: Today’s curmudgeons are negative, pessimistic, self-pitying cynics of yesterday.

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5. Go to meat of you ad thoroughly Don't restrict yourself from going through details of your admirable features. Go into meat of your abilities, skills and assets. Specify what you want out of this ad. Check closely if you have put all necessary description of your personality. Do not enumerate boringly. Insert a lot of positive adjectives to enhance list of your qualities. It will benefit you a lot if you can make your readers understand how these qualities can be of best benefit to them. Be consistent on hyping them with your ad.

6. End with a great impact Once you have established yourself well enough from lead and meat of your end, make sure that you leave a lasting impact to your readers. Your ending paragraph should encourage urgent response. Make your readers feel that you are one of most sought after people. That if they take time considering you they might end up losing you.

7. Play up your best assets. In meat of your article, follow an inverted pyramid style. Start with your most important and admirable assets going through least of them in end. If you impress them with your finest qualities, they will take little notice of your weaknesses. Impress them first hand. Play up your expertise. Focus on them. Enhance these with striking sentences to enhance your skills and other qualities.

8. Package yourself As I said, be your own brand manager. Brand yourself based on your excellent skills and qualities. Create your own identity and make it evident to your writing.

9. Stand out of crowd Now, read other ads. Compare yours to them. Ask yourself, does your ad stands out among rest? Make sure that it does because once you stand out, it will be easy for readers to pick you as their choice. Shine among rest.

10. Write your finer points Transform your weaknesses into fine points. Or better yet, make your weak points very subtle. Focus more on your finer qualities. In fact, lure your readers to a number of your fine points so that they may forget to ask about your weaknesses.

Lastly, be your own judge. While it is good to consider other people's perception on you, do not depend entirely on them. Be objective. If you think that their judgment is baseless, do not entertain them.

Create your own image and be creative as possible. Let your readers get hook on your personal ad. Love your qualities and be confident with what you are. Put your best foot forward. These are keys in writing a successful personal ad. Make a lasting impression and you will reap attention of thousand readers out there. Yes, more than you can handle. So what are you waiting for? Grab your pen and write your way to success!

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