Four Keys to Overcoming Your Nervousness Around Women

Written by John Alexander

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Remember though: have no outcome in mind. So it doesn't matter ifrepparttar chick responds rudely.

In fact, when you reach a point that you've chatted up lots of women, you'll find that eventually rude responses on their part mean nothing. You'll have an attitude of "ha, how original... I've had tons of women give me that exact same 'clever' rude comment."

I've been rejected hideously, time and time again. One chick screamed "Go away!" at me before I could even get out my initial sentence.

Another time I thought it was amusing when I approached a group of two girls, just for practice, and right after I said "hey," they both turned their backs on me in unison, as if they were synchronized dancers!

Now I just look back on all of that and laugh.

My point is thatrepparttar 140802 more you approach,repparttar 140803 more you'll reach a level where you notice that most people act inrepparttar 140804 same, predictable ways. It'll bore you rather than cause you anxiety.

Think of it as trying to build a house. You put down one brick at a time and cement it. Brick, cement. Brick, cement. It'll take a long time, but eventually,repparttar 140805 walls will be up (which means you've finishedrepparttar 140806 hard part).

To get a bit more psychological, there's really no such thing as "being nervous." You don't "get nervous," like it's some kind of flu virus that invades your body.

All feelings of nervousness come from within. You have a certain series of thought processes that you go through. You say things to yourself. (When you think thoughts like, "I would reject myself," it sets you up for failure!) You picturerepparttar 140807 chicks rejecting you. You feel tense in your body. And so on.

So what you can do to break this is to identify it for what it is.

Notice your negative thoughts and change them. Instead of thinking, "Oh my God, this chick is going to act like a bitch to me because I fumble my words"... think, "It's awesome that I'm making this approach, because if this chick rejects me, that means I've gotten her out ofrepparttar 140808 way and I'm one step closer to finding my dream girl."

Notice where you feel tense in your body, and then let your muscles relax in those areas. For me, I feel tense in my jaw and face when I'm nervous. So when I relax my jaw and facial muscles, it alleviates a lot of my tension.

I'll wrap it up for you by concluding with this advice:

1) Be social forrepparttar 140809 sake of being social. Nothing else.

2) Remember thatrepparttar 140810 only way to get over your fear is by doingrepparttar 140811 thing you fear. The more you do it,repparttar 140812 easier it gets, because your attitude aboutrepparttar 140813 experiences will become, "Been there, done that, it's no big deal."

3) Recognize your bad thoughts and force yourself to replace them with good ones.

4) Easerepparttar 140814 physical tension you have in your body when you feel nervous. Learn to permanently overcome your shyness and anxiety around women.

John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male,"a seduction success guide for men available at

Neighbours and Party Tips

Written by Stephen Cope

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6. Respect your neighbours views. If you're party involves anything that could cause offence ensure that it doesn't take place in full view ofrepparttar neighbours. 7. If your neighbours have young children be especially vigilant regarding your guest behaviour in view ofrepparttar 140726 neighbours. 8. Afterrepparttar 140727 party make sure you clean up in front of your neighbours house as well as your own. 9. If you have outdoor lights and decorations make sure they don't light up your neighbours house as well. Bright or flashing lights can be just as irritating as loud music. 10. A post party thank you gift like birthday cake, or balloons forrepparttar 140728 kids etc. Just something small will do just so they know you appreciated their cooperation.

Then you can look forward to hosting your next party.

Stephen Cope is a freelance trainer and the Webmaster at Adult Theme Parties

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